Depends on what your budget is.
I've spent the last three years researching and testing other peoples' cars, and trying out a few suspension setups and think I've found the perfect one for my '09 (basically same stock setup as yours, with minor differences).
The dirty secret about the STi springs is that they are BARELY stiffer than your stock springs. They just have slightly better valving on the dampers and sit about 1/2" lower (yeah, I've tried them). They don't improve the car's handling or ride at all. The STi has other features that do that (including bigger sways among other things).
In my opinion, the best setup for a reasonable daily driver ride PLUS firm enough is:
- Racecomp Yellow springs + Racecomp/Bilstein Cups. They sell this as a combo set. It costs about as much as a cheap coilover, but with much more streetability and reliability. I have 40k miles on my setup so far and drive it daily, autocross it, use it in snow, etc.
Springs are 330# front and rear, and they had Bilstein tune the dampers specifically to these springs, so everything about the setup is perfectly matched. They're compliant enough to make DD duty (even on crappy roads) decent, but firm enough for the track. And they lower about 1" up front and 1/2 to 1" in the rear (there are three circlip settings on the rear shock).
I HIGHLY recommend. Again, not cheap (I got in on an introl deal and was one of the intial testers for RCE), but WELL worth it. I've had half a dozen locals come to drive my car to try them out and at least 4 or 5 of them ended up buying them for their own 08+ WRXs. That's saying alot I think.
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Some larger sways, but not too large. I'm running a mid-sized Cobb front sway, and a mid-sized (adjustable) Perrin rear. I can't remember the sizes specifically, but they were the "middle" of the available sizes. There are other options out there but don't go huge. It's not needed.
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Perrin SLS. It's an insert for the rear subframe bushings. Easy to install, cheap, and really tightens up the rear end. Almost like adding a bigger sway.
Those are my top three, I have some other stuff done but nothing too extreme. I would say the RCE springs/dampers is the BEST thing I've done to this car, hands-down.
Oh, and since your control arms are a bit different than mine, using the 08-10 racecomp front struts lets you get about 1* more negative camber up front than I can get on my car.
Let me know if you have any other questions, I'll try to answer. There's about a 50-page thread on the RCE setup on NASIOC with alot of discussion if you have a few dozen hours to kill. But the general word is that 90% of the people who have them, love them I'd say.