I understand how having the alternator unable to see the voltage it produces can result in the unit charging its brains out, trying to get to 12 volts. But all the circuits I've seen have it seeing that voltage with the battery disconnected. The sensing lead is connected to hot, and will be seeing the alternator output.
The battery would certainly stabilize voltage to a great degree, especially at idle, where the alternator frequently can't produce enough charge.
I could see a minor spike in the systems voltage when disconnecting a battery. And this could cause some problems to components like an ECU, but I don't see it being a problem for the alternator itself.
I can see an alternator killing itself trying to charge a bad battery. Where from the alternators perspective the battery is a bucket without a hole. So the alternator pumps all the current it can into the battery, heating itself up and dying from it. But a battery removed or disconnected wouldn't produce this effect, it would eliminate it. Short the positive lead to ground, and the alternator now would try to pump like mad.
I'm not willing to go disconnect alternators on my various cars just to test all this. I'm just really suspecting this is an old wives tale. Based on something, but overblowing it and missing the real problem. Taking it back in time to generators and external regulators, maybe it's in there. Or back into early alternators with external regulators. But I can't think of one that wouldn't see line voltage with the battery disconnected.