i don't know why Honda did it, but my guess is that it had to do with the weight and mechanical drag issues that are not as severe on an EPS system. I've never heard of anyone disconnecting the EPS but lots of things are possible.
I can tell you that, in my opinion, when you put wider tires up front on the stock wheels the sharp steering feels less so. Was the car you drove shod with wider tires? Maybe they were the stock size but had too little pressure?...
...Because i have an s2000 and still remember the first time i got in the car and changed lanes at speed and was AMAZED at the tight, remarkably quick steering--granted, i was coming out of a front-drive economy car. the system may not be as quick as whatever they've got in an Elise or Exige or Atom but i am suprised by your comment because for all the things i could say i wasn't crazy about, the steering wouldn't be one of them. And if it makes you feel any better, the EPS in the s2000 is far superior to what can be found in the Civics.
Anyway, if you do end up getting one and still can't stand the feeling, you could try swapping in the rack from the CR edition which is a little quicker than the base models, though i'm sure that's a several hundred dollar proposition.
And the crashing had to do with people not ready to handle the big spike in power from 6 to 8k (7 to 9 in the originals) who found themselves getting sideways and not knowing how to control a slide...and although the laws of physics apply to evrything, the s2000 is particularly fond of whatever law it is that says when the rear breaks loose at speed and you lift off the throttle the rear will continue on around to the space previously occupied by the front bumper