I feel like a wrung out dishcloth. Attended the service of an old friend who finally succumbed to cancer. Doesn't feel real, I've just been bombarded with memories the last couple of days, good and bad. We dated for a couple of years back in the late 90s, helped each other through some bad times and have been neighbours and friends for 16 years. I knew he was going to die, but didn't think he'd actually go through with it, you know? I've come to the conclusion that when someone you have history with dies, a big chunk of you goes with them, since no one else will ever know you in precisely the same way that they did.
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:16 p.m. Lesley SuperDork
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:19 p.m. friedgreencorrado SuperDork
Sometimes, people will say that it's "easier" when everyone knows it's coming.
No. No it isn't. Death is death, and there's nothing easy about it. Condolences, Lesley.
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:21 p.m. JoeyM SuperDork
That's hard.....my thoughts go out to you.
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:34 p.m. Marjorie Suddard General Manager
I agree, they take a chunk of you with them. That's the sad news. But the miracle is that they also leave a chunk of themselves with you. It just takes time until the joy of that can come to you. In the meantime, we're here. Sending a big hug.
Margie
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:38 p.m. Toyman01 SuperDork
What Margie said.
Condolences to you, his family and friends.
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Aug. 23, 2011 8:51 p.m. Lesley SuperDork
Thanks guys. What a celebration it was, sending him off. He was part of a huge clan – loud and passionate folks who descended en masse from all over, and was hugely loved by the community, especially all the local musicians. He had a lot of friends and people he had helped over the 30 years he lived in this city. The guy was an original, there will never be another like him, that's for sure. As probably the only really visible (and vocal!) minority in a really white, tightass town – he stood out! We didn't hang out much over the last couple of years other than sidewalk visits outside our houses, exchanging gossip and bitching about the neighbours, but I was able to spend a bit of time with him these last few weeks.
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Aug. 23, 2011 9:55 p.m. EastCoastMojo SuperDork
My condolences Lesley, he sounds like quite an interesting fellow who reached a lot of people.
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Aug. 24, 2011 8:11 a.m. Streetwiseguy Dork
All I ever ask of life is that people speak kindly of me at my funeral. Sounds like that happened for your friend- smile at the good memories.
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Aug. 24, 2011 9:38 a.m. 4cylndrfury SuperDork
Sorry to hear you lost a friend. I know its tuff. Im glad you were able to spend some quality time in the end. Also glad to hear he had so many close friends to support each other and celebrate him. You have my condolences.
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Aug. 24, 2011 9:40 a.m. mad_machine SuperDork
Sorry to hear that Lesley.. I agree.. you give a bit of yourself to everyone you know.. and you get a bit back. Once the shock is over, cherish what he gave you
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Aug. 24, 2011 10:07 a.m. Lesley SuperDork
That's good advice, thanks guys :-)
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Aug. 24, 2011 10:11 a.m. cwh SuperDork
Hey Leslie- you're family. We all grieve with you.
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Aug. 24, 2011 10:57 a.m. Lesley SuperDork
Jeez, don't make me cry again!
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Aug. 24, 2011 11:01 a.m. cwh SuperDork
Go ahead. It's good for you.
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Aug. 24, 2011 11:55 a.m. chuckles Reader
cwh wrote:
Go ahead. It's good for you.
+1. It is, actually.
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Aug. 24, 2011 7:31 p.m. Curmudgeon SuperDork
Lesley, very sorry to hear of this. It's very true that we all swap pieces of our lives.
A few years ago, my dad sent me an Email link to an obit, saying 'didn't you date this girl'? Sure did, for about a year just out of high school, hadn't thought of or seen her for ages. She died of cancer. Even though there had been no contact for ~35 years it was still a hard hit.
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Aug. 24, 2011 9:40 p.m. Lesley SuperDork
It's an awful feeling. Surreal almost. It's making me really conscious of not taking anyone for granted.
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Aug. 25, 2011 12:07 a.m. Hasbro Dork
I wish you peace and strength, Lesley. And hugs, lots of hugs.
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Aug. 25, 2011 9:31 a.m. iceracer SuperDork
Lesley, I have been there. so I have some idea what you are going through. Although everyone grieves in their own way. Just keep the good thoughts and forget any bad ones if there are any. Peace go with you.
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Aug. 25, 2011 11:54 a.m. scardeal HalfDork
Prayers.
