My cousin apparently posts on FB just for the drama. She has been having job, financial and car trouble and I offer help in those situations and I'm constantly ignored.
For example: her 02 Mustang loses an alternator (and probably the battery as well), so I offer to lend a hand by picking one up at a parts store and changing it out. No expectation of payment or anything, just trying to use my skills to help someone who is in a tough spot and needs their car for work and paying for a tow/service shop would make their finances worse. Just get a thanks in reply and no further feedback.
Later there are posts moaning about wanting to go get food but not having transport, etc.
Lady, you could have had your car back within a couple of hours if you'd taken my offer. I won't touch buying junkfood with your slim finances as I understand how depression works all too well.
Fast forward a week and there are posts about getting the car back from the shop, more financial woes, etc.
Now she's had a tire come apart, so again I offer to help by taking the wheel off and hitting a used tire place to keep her moving until she can replace all 4. I explain tire aging to her and that she should be aware of the signs of concern in case the other 3 are in similar shape. She replies with acknowledgement of the plan, but nothing further.
I'm at the point where I want to sit her down and explain that she's young and struggling so if someone offers an unconditional hand-up, berkeleying take it or eventually they'll stop offering help and you'll wonder where they were when you were drowning. I certainly needed help when I was her age, even though I could work on my own vehicles, I still needed help with rides, etc. I mean I dislike much of my family, so if I make an effort to befriend you and try to help, it isn't because I feel obligated.
I know, I know, you can lead a horse to water and all that, but if the horse is already drowning wouldn't it make sense to get some help?
berkeleying askholes and drama lovers are just irritating.