There are some very doscile starter dirt bikes out there.
Level 1 would be the electric ones. Some are zippy, but most are only a shade above dead slow. Very simple controls, a twist throttle and a brake lever.
Level 2 (these are my terms by the way) is where I started my son, at about 8-9 years of age. A Chinese 50cc thingie. Centrifugal clutch, variable speed belt transmission. So one twist throttle and two levers for the front and rear brakes. It runs slow, unless you leave it wide open and give it time to come up to speed. Then it will go quickly.
Level 3 is a 50cc dirt bike with a manual shift transmission. I'd say your boy isn't ready for this.
Basic safety gear for the lad as he learns. And while a helmet is important, goggles, jeans, jacket, etc are far more important. He's going to go down, he's going to get scraped and a bit bloody here and there. If you're a hand wringer, you need to not be there. Let it be a dad thing.
There are things that moms aren't always the best at, and many times, dirt bikes are one of them. When my son side swiped the fence, getting banged up and bloody, he couldn't wait to tell mom. He and I had to have a real conversation on why moms and dads are different, and how there are things that really are between dad and son, and mom doesn't really need to know.