You don’t have to live life with your check-engine light on

Colin
By Colin Wood
Oct 23, 2024 | Column, Blog, adhd, Mental Health, Autism | Posted in Columns | Never miss an article

Photography Credit: David S. Wallens

What’s the longest amount of time you’ve driven around with the check-engine light glowing? A few days? Maybe a month or two? How about for over 20 years?

Exactly 30 years before this past Friday, this very associate editor entered the world–around 9 p.m., I’ve been told.

So yay, happy birthday to me.

I can only speak for myself, but I’m pretty happy to be leaving my 20s behind, mainly because there’s way too much societal pressure when it comes to all the things you have to do when you’re in your 20s.

That doesn’t mean I’m not thankful for my 20s, as it was during that time in my life I got married, had a kid, and even bought a house (well below market value, mind you, as we bought the house off my wife’s father.)

But in between those high points, there were many, many low points. Not “ending it all” low, but more like “I’m having a hard time getting myself through life” low.

I don’t recall the exact moment, but I finally decided that enough was enough. I was tired of feeling like I was surviving instead of thriving like so many other people around me seemed to be.

More specifically, I couldn’t understand why I kept having such a hard time managing emotions, or why, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t stay focused at work for extended periods of time.

I finally sought out therapy to help me understand what was wrong with my brain. Before long–like, pretty much after a single session as my symptoms painted an obvious picture–my diagnosis was the “inattentive” flavor of ADHD (the other two being “hyperactive-impulsive” and “combined”) with a slight potential that I’m on the autism spectrum.

Although getting an ADHD or an autism diagnosis can be distressing, it wasn’t for me.

For the first time in my life, I had some sort of clarity as to what was going on inside my head: No, I wasn’t broken. I just got a wonky wiring job from the factory.

While I can’t just go and get my body a new ECU and a wiring harness (not that I’d want to, anyway), there is medicine that helps.

Like the diagnosis, those first doses of Adderall made me feel like a fully functioning person. I could get more work done in much less time, it became far easier to jump between multiple tasks and, an effect I wasn’t aware could happen, my emotions were much easier to control.

I’m thankful that I’m no longer struggling, and I’m also glad that I can leave my undiagnosed life behind me in my 20s.

So here’s to 30 years, and at least 30 more–and remember, you don’t have to live your life with the check-engine light on.

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Comments
tyronejk
tyronejk New Reader
10/23/24 12:15 p.m.

I don’t recall the exact moment, but I finally decided that enough was enough. I was tired of feeling like I was surviving instead of thriving like so many other people around me seemed to be.

I think it's important to be conscious of the biases in the peeks we have into the lives of people around us.  Those peeks are often filtered and curated portrayals that don't show downsides, negativity, or failures in other their lives that are all too obvious in our own.  Personally, I find that the more I compare myself and my life to those of the people around me, the less content I feel while focusing on working on and improving the things important to me have the opposite effect.

CyberEric
CyberEric SuperDork
10/23/24 12:44 p.m.

I'm celebrating this article and what looks to me like the vulnerability and authenticity in it. heart

David S. Wallens
David S. Wallens Editorial Director
10/23/24 2:45 p.m.

In reply to CyberEric :

Yeah, Colin knocked it out of the park. As you noted, it’s very authentic. 

Colin Wood
Colin Wood Associate Editor
10/23/24 3:17 p.m.

Thank you for the kind words.

I think this really comes from a place where I want others having similar issues to understand that it's not that they are bad at life, it's likely that their brain is kind of working against them. The big takeaway, of course, being that it doesn't have to be like that forever.

Turbo_whoosh
Turbo_whoosh GRM+ Memberand New Reader
10/23/24 4:54 p.m.

I really didn't expect to be reading a mental health article with Grassroots Motorsports, but I'm glad you have shared this. My daughter has a similar diagnosis and I think honestly we all have our own special quirks. Thanks for taking the time to be vulnerable and share your story. 

Mattk
Mattk New Reader
10/23/24 7:47 p.m.

Colin,

thank you for this post. It has hit closer to home then I bet you ever imagined.

Mattk
Mattk New Reader
10/23/24 7:47 p.m.

Colin,

thank you for this post. It has hit closer to home then I bet you ever imagined.

SV reX
SV reX MegaDork
10/23/24 8:00 p.m.

Thank you for sharing this, and congrats on your fantastic discoveries in self management!

I was, however, hoping a little bit to find some insights to the 7 different CEL vehicles sitting in my driveway! 😂

SkinnyG
SkinnyG PowerDork
10/23/24 8:13 p.m.

My youngest was a bit of emotional gong show.  Got him checked out - ADHD and Autism.

Which inspired us to get eldest checked out (he seemed "normal," by my standards) - Austism.

Which checked a lot of boxes for me - Autism.

The next BIG thing for me was some heavy sessions of PTSD therapy.  Turns out my childhood may not have actually been "healthy."

If you have a check-engine light on the dashboard of your brain, get it checked out.

randomacts
randomacts New Reader
10/23/24 8:37 p.m.

Really appreciate you sharing this colin. Been dealing with similar stuff myself and finally got checked out last month. Still figuring things out but its already helping.

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