Boost_Crazy wrote: In reply to wbjones: I'm saying what needs to be said, in clear unambiguous language. To do otherwise just glosses over the problem. I said that if you are adult working a minimum wage job, there is a serious problem with you. Not finishing high school, choosing to have children with a man who can't or won't support his children, not having any family ties, and not having enough skill or personality to get more than a minimum wage job- that qualifies as "something wrong with you" in my world. They still have the opportunity to fix their life. What you are describing- is a fraction of a fraction of the situations that result in poverty in the real world. Your solution may work in that case. You could also suggest that people don't wear seat belts, because in some cases you will be thrown free. I'll continue wearing my seat belt. And I'll keep recommending personal responsibility and encouraging people to pick themselves up, rather than say they are doomed and not offer a workable solution. Your attitude towards me is a direct example of your flawed thinking. You attack me for making the right choices in life. I take responsibility for myself and provide for my family. I made personal sacrafices to get where I am. Yet you make me the bad guy for being the good guy. It's increasing theme in today's society. It's easier to blame, put down, and try to discredit those that succeed rather than stepping up and taking responsibility for your own actions. Good luck with that strategy, I don't see it working any time soon.
last I'll say …. I'm really not attacking you …. just hoping you'll understand that, while you're "perfect" lots of folk aren't …
do you really think that most women CHOOSE to have babies by men they KNOW won't stick around to do their part ? really ? there's you condescending attitude again
there are plenty of folk that don't finish HS because they can't do the work, or that's the absolute highest they could aspire to … they still become adults and have to find work … all they're capable of is min. wage jobs … yes there IS something "wrong" with them … they weren't blessed with your level of intelligence … again, you condescending attitude
these aren't "problems" (lives) that can be fixed in most cases …
it's wonderful that you don't live where much of this is prevalent … but I assure you that here in rural Appalachia there is a lot of these "problem" folk (as you call them)
and again … your analogy of seat belt use is another example of your condescending attitude …
the points I'm making aren't nearly as isolated as you think they are