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Datsun310Guy MegaDork
2/22/21 5:12 p.m.

In reply to Duke :

Imagine getting a $1200 check one week to cover my base salary then 2 weeks later another $1200 check along with a commission. One month it was $5,000 and another month it was $20,000.   

Good luck figuring the right tax deduction to not get too much or too little at tax time when you don't always know how the month will end.  

First world problems?

mad_machine (Forum Supporter)
mad_machine (Forum Supporter) GRM+ Memberand MegaDork
2/22/21 9:52 p.m.

Had a tiny bit of spiteful road rage sent my way today.  Was approaching an intersection on a major state highway, going to make a right, but have not yet reached the two turning lanes.  Honda Minivan coming up fast behind my Disco and tried to pass me on the shoulder, only to brake hard because he did not see the broken down car on the shoulder already.  The turning lanes started right after the broken down car.  

So the minivan swings back in behind me just as I start my turn to the turning lanes (With signal on since before the broken down car) and once traffic clears, I make my turn and the minivan follows, I knew he was going to fly by me, so I stayed right and let him do his thing, only moving to the middle lane after he passed (as the right lane ends at an entrance to a parking lot ahead and we go our way.  A couple of miles down the road, at the next intersection, I find myself coming up behind the minivan again.  I am turning right and have my signal on, the Minivan intentionally moved right, after being stopped, to keep me from getting into the turning lane and going by him.

How petty is that?  If I had not had my elderly father with me, I would have popped two weeks up on the kerb and gone around him anyway.

In reply to mad_machine (Forum Supporter) :

That's not rage. That's childishness. 

Mike (Forum Supporter)
Mike (Forum Supporter) GRM+ Memberand UltraDork
2/22/21 10:20 p.m.

It's time to sell my CR-Z, and I don't relish the process.

Ashyukun (Robert)
Ashyukun (Robert) PowerDork
2/23/21 9:51 a.m.

In reply to KyAllroad (Jeremy) (Forum Supporter) :

Yikes. I don't relish having to look over our roof/attic... but then I know that there is a quarter-sized hole in the plywood (that I think I got sealed up decently last year) already, and when a house around the corner got a new roof and the roofing guys came around and looked at other houses they said there was enough damage to ours that our insurance should replace it without any problems (though it will likely cost us a modest bit since we want a metal roof instead of asphalt). 

Ashyukun (Robert)
Ashyukun (Robert) PowerDork
2/23/21 9:55 a.m.

In reply to Duke :

We were taking out a LOT extra each month in extra withholding- the previous year because we weren't sure how much of the investment account we cashed out to pay for the cabin was going to get taxed, and last year because we weren't sure how bad we'd get hit for things with the cabin itself (turns out that withholding close to income from the cabin for the year is a bit overkill...). I have a difficult time getting things to come out even as well, especially since the company that handles payroll for The Dancer's nonprofit & the studio she works at do a crappy job of getting the amount they withhold right.

Duke MegaDork
2/23/21 10:19 a.m.

In reply to Ashyukun (Robert) :

And that's what bugs me. Our financial situation is extremely straightforward, with 2 salaried, married adults and no dependents. But even taking zero deductions and withholding as if we were single, they are nowhere close to withholding enough. 

Beer Baron
Beer Baron MegaDork
2/23/21 10:39 a.m.

Don't post a bunch of political opinions on social media.

If you do post a bunch of political opinions on social media, don't be shocked and offended when people tell you that your political opinions are stupid.

Stefan (Forum Supporter)
Stefan (Forum Supporter) MegaDork
2/23/21 11:24 a.m.


Younger, special needs Brother has been in the hospital since November due to falling from having a seizure.  He was supposed to go home fairly quickly, but then aspirated and needed to be intubated and then they did a traech tube.

So he's slowly recovering, but he has a limp from a previous fall that hurt his back and some adema in his feet that are making it painful to walk.  Many referals were issued to get everything checked and to ensure nothing serious is going on with his help.

He and Mom live in New Mexico, I'm in Oregon.  He's fairly functional and he had been living on his own, though its obvious he shouldn't have been.  His girlfriend lives a few blocks away and she's also fairly high functioning, but she's been covering for his deficiencies in the cleanliness and safety aspects when the State or his Case Manager visits to the point where she balks at the idea of them sharing a place permanently.

Of course COVID meant they were out of work, so they've been just stuck at home watching TV, etc.  Luckily SSDI and their savings means they are doing ok.

Mom keeps pushing for his living independently (lots of guilt surrounding his illness as a baby along with her own personal demons) and his Case Manager uses that as an excuse to not do much of anything, including ensuring he eats healthy.  He survives mostly on Soda and processed foods.

I just found out that he has Stage 3 Kidney Failure.

Wife and I were already looking into Guardianship for him and to change Case Management, but now we need to step things up because I know that if we don't he's going to eventually get patched up well enough to go home where he won't last long on his own.  Basically Mom and the Case Manager will facilitate his self-suicide and traumatizing his girlfriend in the process.

2020 Part 2 can go berk itself.

Duke MegaDork
2/23/21 12:01 p.m.

In reply to Stefan (Forum Supporter) :

Oh, cheez, that sounds like a really tough situation from a lot of perspectives.  The very best of luck to you in resolving it.


Wally (Forum Supporter)
Wally (Forum Supporter) MegaDork
2/23/21 7:46 p.m.

We had no idea at the time but a year ago today was the last time I'd visit my dad and the last time my family would see Jodi.  There's so many things I wish I'd done differently. 

M2Pilot Dork
2/23/21 8:41 p.m.

In reply to Wally (Forum Supporter) :

I think all of us feel that way about some things.  I guess the answer is to do the best we can with what we have.  

When Dad was on his last legs, I decided to visit him on the day after his birthday instead of on this birthday.  I didn't think he would feel like having a lot of company, He passed on his birthday.

Duke MegaDork
2/23/21 8:52 p.m.
Wally (Forum Supporter) said:

We had no idea at the time but a year ago today was the last time I'd visit my dad and the last time my family would see Jodi.  There's so many things I wish I'd done differently. 

It's an old saw, but hindsight is 20/20. I would do something differently every day of my life if I could. You did your best with what you had at the time.


Antihero (Forum Supporter)
Antihero (Forum Supporter) GRM+ Memberand UberDork
2/23/21 8:56 p.m.

In reply to Wally (Forum Supporter) :

My mom was told she wasn't gonna have long, she always wanted to go to a casino and Australia before she died.


Australia was impossible but she died before I could get her to a casino. She was always very money conscious and didn't want to blow money. She also wanted to see the 4th of July fireworks one last time and she lost consciousness on the 3rd.


I had the fireworks a few days before but didn't do it until the 4th because I thought she had more time. And I had years to take her to the casino and never did.


We all have regrets and the weight of them. I know that's not exactly helpful but you aren't alone there

matthewmcl (Forum Supporter)
matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) HalfDork
2/23/21 9:24 p.m.

My Aunt passed to cancer half a dozen years ago. She had a big reunion/party when she felt like things were really bad. It was close to a hundred people meeting at the local church hall. She basically planned her own funeral, as most everybody there understood they would never see her again. Except it was a funeral where she got to see everyone one last time.

She passed three weeks later, as I recall, with only immediate family at the service. 

I'd never known anyone to do it that way, before, and now I'll never forget it.

Appleseed MegaDork
2/23/21 10:03 p.m.

I said it before,  and I'll say it again. I'd trade a year of my life for one more day with my dad.

Ashyukun (Robert)
Ashyukun (Robert) PowerDork
2/24/21 8:15 a.m.

We've spent the last 3 Christmases with The Dancer's family instead of mine (usually spend Thanksgiving with mine, and exchanged gifts then) because her Granddad's health was declining and she knew she wouldn't have that many more with him- it was sad to never get to spend Christmas with my family, but since I don't have any living grandparents anymore myself and that her Granddad really went all-out for Christmas it was worth it for her to have those times with him. 

Ashyukun (Robert)
Ashyukun (Robert) PowerDork
2/24/21 9:05 a.m.

So, I ranted a month or so ago about the issues with our house's sump pump- and given that the previous one had worked without issue beyond needing to refill the water in the battery every few years I had high hopes of not having to worry about the new one for a similar length of time. Nope.

About 5:30 this morning (an hour before my alarm was optimistically set to try and get up and go in and swim laps) I woke up for no reason that I could initially identify, but as I got more awake was aware of a faint high-pitched tone that I eventually realized was the level alarm that the plumbers had re-installed from the old sump pump system. I got up and headed into the laundry room where the sump is located, and stared down through the plexiglass cover on the sump (it's sealed because of our Radon mitigation system) trying to figure out what was going on. I eventually remembered how to shut off the audible alarm, and then eventually out of a lack of ideas shook the pipe from the sump pump. BAM- pump kicks on and runs for like 3x longer than usual draining all of the water out of the sump. I reset the alarm, and head up to use the bathroom since I'm already awake. I can hear when the pump runs from that bathroom (and actually pretty much anywhere except for the top floor of the house can hear it, at least faintly) and heard it cycle several times, so went back to bed. Unfortunately, I had been up long enough that getting back to sleep was difficult- made even moreso by my paranoia about the sump pump. I did eventually get to sleep, but when my alarm went off at 6:30 I dozed off for about 15 minutes after shutting it off and reset my alarm for around 7:30.

Alarm goes off at 7:30.... and I wake up to realize that the sump alarm is going off again. Walk in, jiggle the pipe- pump kicks on. Reset the alarm, go take a shower. Get out of shower- hear the alarm going off again. Jiggle pipe, reset alarm. This has gone on all morning. As near as I can tell, the float that controls the pump is getting hung up somehow and not turning on as it should... but I've yet to be able to really see what is doing it and how to fix it. I have a really strong urge to say, "Berk it," and buy the updated version of the system we originally had- and add in the WiFi connectivity box so I can see what's going on with the pump even when we're not here. But that would be another $500 (I'd keep the existing pump as an emergency backup, since the new system has a low-power backup built in) for the pump system itself and either taking the time to install it myself or another few hundred for the plumbers to install it.

Robbie (Forum Supporter)
Robbie (Forum Supporter) GRM+ Memberand MegaDork
2/24/21 9:22 a.m.
Appleseed said:

I said it before,  and I'll say it again. I'd trade a year of my life for one more day with my dad.

Don't make the trade yet. Someday, someone will likely feel that way about you. 

stanger_mussle (Forum Supporter)
stanger_mussle (Forum Supporter) GRM+ Memberand UltraDork
2/24/21 9:59 a.m.

Drink water at work = pee every 15 minutes

Drink water for yearly blood/urine lab = nothing for 2+ hours


I knew I had a lab draw this morning for my annual VA checkup so I've been trying to hydrate starting last night.

Got up this morning, emptied my bladder before showering. I drank about 8oz of water right after I got up and an entire 32oz Nalgene bottle before leaving for my appointment.

I've been here 2 hours, waiting to give an urine sample. I just want to pee so I don't burn a ton of sick time hours at this appointment sad


matthewmcl (Forum Supporter)
matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) HalfDork
2/24/21 12:13 p.m.
Robbie (Forum Supporter) said:
Appleseed said:

I said it before,  and I'll say it again. I'd trade a year of my life for one more day with my dad.

Don't make the trade yet. Someday, someone will likely feel that way about you. 

+1, like your kid wanting one more day with his dad.

Appleseed MegaDork
2/24/21 12:34 p.m.

In reply to Robbie (Forum Supporter) :

Boy, let's hope so.

93EXCivic MegaDork
2/24/21 6:30 p.m.

So ready for this to fade and stop hurting. 

Dieselboss15 Reader
2/24/21 6:40 p.m.

In reply to 93EXCivic :

what happened? bike wreck?

93EXCivic MegaDork
2/24/21 6:44 p.m.

In reply to Dieselboss15 :

Yeah mountain biking, slid out on an off chamber part and a rock caught me.

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