No bar, outside venue, friend made dress, friend made cake, 150 people or so, 2-3K if I recall. I said the honeymoon has to be more expensive than the wedding.
No bar, outside venue, friend made dress, friend made cake, 150 people or so, 2-3K if I recall. I said the honeymoon has to be more expensive than the wedding.
In reply to Toyman01 + Sized and :
That's a good point! I just checked and the ones that the shop recommends actually are rated at just about 100lbs more than the ones that I've got on it now.
The nice part is that I will finally have a spare. I'll take them the bad tire and the spare and then I can move the cracked-the-most to the spare, the not so bad to the rear, and the news to the fronts. And then the music will stop.
SWMBO needs to realize I do not hear like everyone else. I hear maybe 65% of what is said to me. My brain fills in the rest. (Mostly incorrectly)
The rest of it is tone of voice. I'm fine and I'M FINE are the same words, but the mean radially different things, simply by tone of voice.
The past couple days her tone has been like when Aunt Flow visits. Except this time I'm pushing back a bit. Its getting old.
In 3 years, I am on my 4th/5th manager for the same role, though one that has evolved significantly. My current manager, who should have been my manager 6 months ago, has said I'm to take day to day guidance from a colleague - this colleague SHOULD be the person I report to, but because of stupid HR rules, they won't give him direct reports unless he has more than 3 directs. Colleague is refusing to act as my de-facto supervisor, which I agree with, because he doesn't actually have any managerial authority and it isn't in his job description. Leaves me in an odd spot. Both my colleague and I want to be our own team, together, away from the other team. We're lost in a sea of corporate politics, trying to just keep our heads down, but they keep berkeleying everything up. So tired of this E36 M3.
I counted today, only going up to the "Big Boss" level, meaning either my bosses boss or my bosses bosses boss - same level, they've just inserted additional management in between us as our scope has increased about 2000% in the 3 years - I've had either 10 or 11 different reporting hierarchies. And each one has a completely different idea about what/how we should operate. Oh, and I forgot about the 3 months that I was going to be reporting to New Manager from the merger, then a different new manager from the merger, then a third new manager from the merger - two of whom were let go, but not before they got in and berked everything up. As was another, but he was here for a while so his berkeleying things up had more time to ferment and gave us a chance to breathe at least.
In reply to mtn :
Sounds exactly like what DW has been going through for the last 2-3 years. Merging 2 huge companies and then breaking them back up into 3 smaller-but-different ones makes for, shall we say, a dynamic management roster and associated radical, random swings in direction.
tuna55 said:GIRTHQUAKE said:mtn said:You're smoking Marlboro reds, taking random unregulated supplements, and you're scared of the vaccine? Make sure you have enough tin foil to line your red hat there, buddy.
At my hospital I didn't get in trouble for this.
(AGHGHHH)These people are going to make the difference between killing this thing and living with it for a decade or more. If everyone would mask up and then get the shot, the thing would go away. Antivaxxers are going to do their best to make sure we all suffer. We develop multiple amazing vaccines in less than a year, each publicly available for free. It's a modern day miracle. People poop all over it on their way to 7-11 to get a microwave burrito and cigs or vapes because they don't know what's in it.
What's worse to me personally, has been the gradual warping of honest mistrust in something that has power over you into this kind of belief that you are somehow vindicated and morally superior just because you said no to someone in a uniform or a suit. I've dealt with it for years- especially from old "John Wayne" types who'd be visibly in pain but claim "just get me to the hospital" and not let you do anything- but it's hit fever-pitch now, to the point where Narcissism has like it's own cult religion in America now.
I wish I could tell you that I've only had to say the "Then why are you in the hospital, if you don't want to do anything the doctor tells you to save your life?" line once.
In reply to mtn :
Oh god, same. I've worked my current place for 5 years, and in that time I've outlived 5 Chief Nursing Officers and 4 hospital CEOs. Couldn't even tell you how many HR people we've had.
Even worse; all my last bosses have been practically tits-out on my studies in medicine, but my most recent one wrote me up for "Studying at the desk". Problem is, we have numerous textbooks and guides for difficult things an encyclopedias at that desk which I use regularly- and now I'm supposed to train people at the desk. So will a newbie be written up for studying their drug cards or proper wound care in their down time while they're training with me? I've had no answer.
Pollen usually doesn't bother me too much... but holy smokes it's heavy this week!
This is on my shoe after walking through the grass to get to my car:
GIRTHQUAKE said:In reply to mtn :
Oh god, same. I've worked my current place for 5 years, and in that time I've outlived 5 Chief Nursing Officers and 4 hospital CEOs. Couldn't even tell you how many HR people we've had.
Even worse; all my last bosses have been practically tits-out on my studies in medicine, but my most recent one wrote me up for "Studying at the desk". Problem is, we have numerous textbooks and guides for difficult things an encyclopedias at that desk which I use regularly- and now I'm supposed to train people at the desk. So will a newbie be written up for studying their drug cards or proper wound care in their down time while they're training with me? I've had no answer.
I hope you took that one to HR?
Speeding ticket, no brake lights, and registration expired. In the way to the cruise night. Coming off the highway while decelerating.
Great start to the weekend right there.
Sigh, Mom why do you insist on having your disabled son forward texts to his care team from you? Do you think it makes it sound like the instructions are coming from him? You do realize that when he sends a text, he uses voice capture and the message follows nearly the same pattern every time, right? So perhaps your more articulate message (that you signed) that you had him forward isn't fooling anyone.
That said, no. No one is going to help move random E36 M3 into his apartment (a chest freezer, really?), add handholds, etc just to have to move it again to wherever he ends up living because he, and I can't stress this enough, cannot live on his own anymore. His entire team and his Doctor all agree on this. So his apartment is to be boxed up in preparation for where he will be living once he's well enough to leave the Recovery Center he's in now.
Since his current case manager and you have conspired to have him sign yet another form to undo the changes to his case management team that we all agreed on previously? I've had to go over her head to the case manager's boss and the State to get them to understand how truly screwed up the situation is.
Of course, like a dummy I managed to make the Attorney handling our Guardianship case angry because they aren't moving fast enough, but when you've got a drunk, potentially bipolar narcisist mother on one side, enabled by another case manager come mother on the other; both of whom are hiding behind the legalities of my disabled brother being his own guardian and is unable or unwilling to express what he really wants or is feeling? Yeah I need you to move quickly before he's released and goes back to his apartment to essentially kill himself through a lack of proper care (which is how he ended up in the hospital in the first place where they discovered his kidney's are shot among other issues).
Sigh, this isn't helping my own personal drinking problem.
For a truly minor rant: installing brake hard lines sucks!! Its taking at least 2x as long as I would have thought to be able to just semi-route the new (preBent!) Lines where the old ones were. Honestly shocking.
Replaced the supposedly faulty module, windows still don't work on the E36.
Which means I'm 100% not doing the trackday next Thursday.
Went to get the club van for our season opener doubleheader AX this weekend...
cranks, cranks, doesn't catch.
then cranks, still doesn't start... and refuses to stop cranking, even with the key pulled from the ignition.
Battery death was the only thing that stopped it.
Club will eat the $200 tow to the pad but the event hasn't even started and I'm 100% over it.
Yay being the event chair.
Need to sell all of these cars and admit that I'm a stupid berkeleying piece of E36 M3 who shouldn't be around them
classicJackets (FS) said:For a truly minor rant: installing brake hard lines sucks!! Its taking at least 2x as long as I would have thought to be able to just semi-route the new (preBent!) Lines where the old ones were. Honestly shocking.
I got pre bent for my Ranger 2 years ago. One was half an inch too long preventing it from going into place at all, so there's a pretty stainless one on one side and a barely out of the way cupernickle on the other.
It's been almost 6 years, when's the screeching angry fighting wallet draining part of parenting going to turn into the "happy fun best thing I ever did" part of parenting?
At the very least, when will the entire berkeleying house stop being sticky all the berkeleying time?
Appleseed said:SWMBO needs to realize I do not hear like everyone else. I hear maybe 65% of what is said to me. My brain fills in the rest. (Mostly incorrectly)
Emily Litella syndrome. I got that. Not because my hearing's broken (enough), there's just driver errors and software problems. I have painfully "phonographic" hearing memory, like every nuance of any music I've heard more than twice. I can listen to Master of Puppets entirely in my head, and judge covers by how wrong they are. RichaadEB is tone deaf and should not be allowed near a guitar. I remember deeply things like the sound of my turbo seizing, the first time someone said "Hi", the first time she said "I love you".
But I also mishear things constantly. I try to have fun with it. Like when a co worker said "That's rare, she had a front ham cake." Mulled that over, wondering WTF that meant. Is that like a "five-head" but different? So I asked, say again, adding what I thought he said. "No, a FIRM HAND SHAKE." Ohhh.... We got a good laugh out of it at least.
RevRico said:It's been almost 6 years, when's the screeching angry fighting wallet draining part of parenting going to turn into the "happy fun best thing I ever did" part of parenting?
At the very least, when will the entire berkeleying house stop being sticky all the berkeleying time?
I don't think it ever does, having been a kid and been around other kids (mostly against my will).
I think it's mostly, you see the moments where it's awesome, and learn to appreciate them against the rest of the time.
In reply to RevRico :
It keeps getting better, I say. At first, they are a squalling , mewling source of puke and filth, useless in every way. Anything after that is better. Talk to them like humans, as if they have a brain, and get to adult level conversations about appropriate topics by the time they are entering double digit age, and you will probably find someone you want to be around,
Jordan Peterson (Famous controversial clinical psychologist): Don't allow a child to grow into someone you don't like.
Lindsay Rose, friend: Most stuff isn't worth going to war with your kids. But, if you do go to war, you must berkeleying win.
There is a major rant involving a service manager who rewrote one of my inspection reports, that gets uploaded online with my name on it, that makes me look like either a complete imbecile or a scam artist, and I'm still really, really, really pissed off.
Like, if I saw someone show me an inspection that had that wording on it, I'd request that the technician be not allowed to work for anyone in any field ever again, and in a more enlightened society should perform yubitsume.
And shiny happy person changed MY words, to make ME look like the shiny happy person.
I'm still pissed poff about it. I will probably be pissed off about it for 20 years. This is probably not healthy. Because my name was on the inspection, if I hear anything about it, I will pursue legal repercussions even if it destroys me financially, because as far as I am concerned any word against me has already destroyed me professionally.
In reply to Pete. (l33t FS) :
I am literally angry for you right now. In my field, if this happened, it'd be under NDA with a small circle seeing it, and I'd still be irretrievably pissed.
Are there any industry bodies, trade groups or ombudsman you can proactively take the issue to or file a grievance with?
Sorry, I know you're here to rant.
Lmk if you want to talk about cryptographically signing documents as a protection against tampering.
In reply to Pete. (l33t FS) :
Scorched earth. Your good name is worth more than just about anything else.
In reply to Pete. (l33t FS) :
It's funny to those who are told what we hear, and sometimes it's funny to us, but they can't imagine what it's like to hear things like that all the time.
Things are funny till they aren't.
Streetwiseguy said:In reply to Pete. (l33t FS) :
Scorched earth. Your good name is worth more than just about anything else.
I'm stepping back until the anger-hormones are clear. Don't want to do anything rash. I've made some good rash decisions but mostly bad rash decisions, and I guess getting old means not getting stupid.
Self medicating with Sobieski, pierogies, and videos on YouTube about kittens and Omaha Beach. (Two separate subjects)
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