(Not really a rant, just not sure where else to put this.) Actual conversation with the baroness...
Me: Thinking of getting a new amp for the stereo in the garage gym. I could get one with BlueTooth that...
Her: You mean the thing I don't use?
Me: Yes. I could get one that works *exactly* like the thing you like, only *better*.
Her: I like the thing I like. I got it for $50 at Target.
She will continue to use a cheap pair of bluetooth speakers when working out instead of a $400 stereo.
Beer Baron said:
(Not really a rant, just not sure where else to put this.) Actual conversation with the baroness...
Me: Thinking of getting a new amp for the stereo in the garage gym. I could get one with BlueTooth that...
Her: You mean the thing I don't use?
Me: Yes. I could get one that works *exactly* like the thing you like, only *better*.
Her: I like the thing I like. I got it for $50 at Target.
She will continue to use a cheap pair of bluetooth speakers when working out instead of a $400 stereo.
My daughter always gives me grief about not using phone based apps instead of the browser. I'm frightened of this new demon based technology, and I'm happy with what I have, because... sometimes familiarity just works.
Streetwiseguy said:
My daughter always gives me grief about not using phone based apps instead of the browser. I'm frightened of this new demon based technology, and I'm happy with what I have, because... sometimes familiarity just works.
The current stereo you literally just... plug the 1/8" jack into your phone or computer.
She prefers to use a cheap pair of bluetooth speakers. So I'm offering to get a decent stereo amp that has bluetooth. Then she can use it *exactly* like her cheap bluetooth speakers, only it will play through nice speakers and she won't need to bring anything with her except her phone.
She purely wants to use her cheap little bluetooth speakers because they're her cheap little bluetooth speakers. The reason she likes them better is because she likes them better. They're her's... even the though the stereo in the garage is her's too, it just sat in storage since we moved in together over a decade ago.
I got like 2 hours of sleep last night.
It's my first day shift of a month long shift rotation.
The section lead (a GS13) will be back today after working from home for more than a year. He likes to stir E36 M3 up because he can. Nobody likes him. I'm fully expecting a raging dumpster fire today.
Is it possible to have negative berks to give?
stanger_mussle said:
Is it possible to have negative berks to give?
If your presence causes other people's reserve of berkeleys to decrease, yes.
I own two cars that have a remarkable ability to capture a winters worth of leaves on top of the exhaust manifolds. My Camaro lives in a garage all winter, and yet it gives me a lovely campfire scent every spring on its first drive.
My SRT4 Neon had what appeared to be a campfire on top of the turbo when I came off the freeway this morning. I was expecting people to rush up with extinguishers while I was at the red light.
RevRico
UltimaDork
5/3/21 9:25 a.m.
It frosted Thursday night after being 75 during the day. Garden is dead.
Streetwiseguy said:
My daughter always gives me grief about not using phone based apps instead of the browser. I'm frightened of this new demon based technology, and I'm happy with what I have, because... sometimes familiarity just works.
Phone apps tend to have more tracking going on behind the scenes than just using the same functionality in the browser. Not to mention browsers tend to be updated for security purposes much faster than an individual company's app.
My rant: A lot of functions that could be done just fine in a browser keep getting removed to force people into app usage. Switching the browser to desktop mode helps most of the time, at least.
Every time my wife and I try to do something with her family there's drama. Every berkeleying time...
My son and nephew are both graduating from the same HS in June. My nephew decided he doesn't want to walk. OK, Fine. We had planned with his mom to have all of the family get together at my wife's parents house (neutral ground) and we would cater in food, take care of setup, etc. Her parents are getting older, but again WE were going to take care of everything. Nephew's mom came over last and let us know that night SIL #1 (the controlling narcissist) called her to say that she thinks it's too much work for the parents (even though we are doing basically everything). So the nephew's mom said they are going to have a surprise breakfast for him as a separate thing. Oh yeah, they won't be home the next day so they won't be around if we have a thing for our son. Needless to day my wife is pissed and hurt as usual. I'm sure that her dad will say "that's just who they are" and we should just accept it. No matter how E36 M3ty his sons and their wives treat us that's always the answer.
Oldest brother has called my wife 4-5 times in the last 20 years. It's always to make himself feel better but then doesn't bother to ask my wife how we are. We go to their house and it's basically the same. He and his wife will talk your ear off about their jobs, hobbies, friends, etc, but can't be bothered to take an interest in our family. It's like we're berkeleying ghosts or warm dogE36 M3. Second brother and I have a lot in common on paper but he's always held us at arm's length. His wife thought we should volunteer to watch their kids since my wife stayed at home. She will at least try to be friendly. The parents say that we should all just try to get along and accept everyone for who they are, but they constantly talk about the oldest son and his famimily whenever we see them.
My daughter is the youngest grandkid. She's got two more years until she graduates. I honestly don't know if I can put up with this E36 M3 for two more years.
My Father and my Sis are at it again. They both share the same personality, both are extremely bull headed, opinionated, and lack the tact of an elephant. Two years ago my Father sold his car and gave up driving after series of seizures. After the worst of them, my Sister packed her family up and moved in with him to help keep him safe. As you can guess, this has not been smooth sailing. With the Pandemic still on going, my sisters's paranoia, and my father's physical disabilities, none of them leave the house, so they have been getting on each other's nerves like nothing else can.
Today, he calls me up and asks me to take him out car shopping tomorrow. I was supposed to take him to the hospital to have his catheter looked at, but he decided getting a car was more important. I agreed and was going to talk to him about not getting one while we were out. Between the seizures and the cataracts, I do not feel he is safe behind the wheel. My sister found out and she told him the same, but in a less than tactful way. They screamed, they ranted, they came close to blows.. and he is throwing them out. Neither one can survive without the other. They don't make enough money to live on their own and he is too incapacitated to to live alone.
These two have made my life hell for the past 40+ years. I am certain one or the other ruined most of my relationships over the years. All I ever wanted was a quiet life with a little family, and enough left over to not have to worry about retirement. Every time I got close to that, one or two of them would suddenly drop into my life and demand I fix theirs.
Right now I am unemployed due to the pandemic, that is stressful enough. To have to jump in and fix their lives again is too much to ask. I am tired, I am stressed, I live in complete fear they are going to show up at my door and demand to stay with us, and I have very few berks left to give anymore. I can't even stand going over there to take him to the doctor, It sets my Crohn's up into tight knots that take days to recover from.. and now this.
At this point I would love to sell everything, buy a 30 something sailboat, and disappear over the horizon.
Duke
MegaDork
5/3/21 11:49 a.m.
There is only so long you can feed me all the E36 M3 work in the office and none of the fun (or even interesting) projects, and expect me to stay happy about it.
honestly, if you don't anything helpful to say, it's kinda pointless to say "sorry i don't know the answer to this"
wae
UberDork
5/3/21 12:25 p.m.
In reply to Dieselboss15 :
I think it kind of depends on the context. I've seen way too many people bumble around in meetings when the right answer really is "I don't know, but I'll go find someone who does".
When it comes to the Questions on Amazon listings, for example, though, those people need to be smacked up-side the head.
In reply to mad_machine (Forum Supporter) :
The advice I wish I had received many years ago is this : people only have the power you give them over you.
In that situation I'd probably make them earn the help from you rather than giving it but I'd err on the side of helping your dad more. His physical ailments aren't his fault and he probably can't do much to change it.
wae said:
In reply to Dieselboss15 :
I think it kind of depends on the context. I've seen way too many people bumble around in meetings when the right answer really is "I don't know, but I'll go find someone who does".
When it comes to the Questions on Amazon listings, for example, though, those people need to be smacked up-side the head.
exactly my point idk why it bothers me but it does
I don't really care what people think about how I'm handling thing. Most ot the people with strong opinions didn't mean anything to me before I lost Jodi, they certainly don't now. What I hate is that once they don't get the reaction they want from me they go to people that don't need to be bothered. Last week I started a Facebook page I'm going to try and share some vacation stories and pics on. A lot of family asked to see them and I don't want them on my personal page so it seemed like a good compromise. One shiny happy person that is unhappy they were blocked from my personal page thinks it's a disrespectful attempt to "monetize the death of Jodi". I ignored them so they went to my sister in law, who also doesn't need to hear his E36 M3. For someone that never really talked to us while she was alive they have a lot to say now for some reason.
Some people shouldn't be reading radiologist reports without some modicum of knowledge of what they're reading.....
mad_machine (Forum Supporter) said:
My Father and my Sis are at it again. They both share the same personality, both are extremely bull headed, opinionated, and lack the tact of an elephant. Two years ago my Father sold his car and gave up driving after series of seizures. After the worst of them, my Sister packed her family up and moved in with him to help keep him safe. As you can guess, this has not been smooth sailing. With the Pandemic still on going, my sisters's paranoia, and my father's physical disabilities, none of them leave the house, so they have been getting on each other's nerves like nothing else can.
Today, he calls me up and asks me to take him out car shopping tomorrow. I was supposed to take him to the hospital to have his catheter looked at, but he decided getting a car was more important. I agreed and was going to talk to him about not getting one while we were out. Between the seizures and the cataracts, I do not feel he is safe behind the wheel. My sister found out and she told him the same, but in a less than tactful way. They screamed, they ranted, they came close to blows.. and he is throwing them out. Neither one can survive without the other. They don't make enough money to live on their own and he is too incapacitated to to live alone.
These two have made my life hell for the past 40+ years. I am certain one or the other ruined most of my relationships over the years. All I ever wanted was a quiet life with a little family, and enough left over to not have to worry about retirement. Every time I got close to that, one or two of them would suddenly drop into my life and demand I fix theirs.
Right now I am unemployed due to the pandemic, that is stressful enough. To have to jump in and fix their lives again is too much to ask. I am tired, I am stressed, I live in complete fear they are going to show up at my door and demand to stay with us, and I have very few berks left to give anymore. I can't even stand going over there to take him to the doctor, It sets my Crohn's up into tight knots that take days to recover from.. and now this.
At this point I would love to sell everything, buy a 30 something sailboat, and disappear over the horizon.
Roll up whatever size of joint, or cup of tea that will allow you to stay calm, get the pair of them in the room, and tell them exactly what you just old us. Don't get dragged into a fight, just tell them calmly that their bull is making your life miserable, and if they keep it up, you will remove them from your life.
Dieselboss15 said:
honestly, if you don't anything helpful to say, it's kinda pointless to say "sorry i don't know the answer to this"
If they say that, and then shut the hell up, that's kinda good. If they continue to blabber, not so much.
Duke
MegaDork
5/3/21 3:37 p.m.
Six days and a monster prednisone pack later, my neck / shoulder / back / arm are still slowly killing me.
Next up: PT.
Streetwiseguy said:
Dieselboss15 said:
honestly, if you don't anything helpful to say, it's kinda pointless to say "sorry i don't know the answer to this"
If they say that, and then shut the hell up, that's kinda good. If they continue to blabber, not so much.
I was going to say I'd rather hear that than a bunch of BS
wae
UberDork
5/3/21 3:54 p.m.
Despite not really having any idea what I'm doing, I was just able to get an ancient Dell server (2008, I think?) running Win 2k3 operational for a customer via a Teams call with a very shaky cellphone video of the console.
Which means the next time some old piece of garbage breaks somewhere for any other customer, they're gonna call me. Not only am I not an "at-the-keyboard" guy, I haven't done server things since before the turn of the century. Sigh.
Streetwiseguy said:
mad_machine (Forum Supporter) said:
My Father and my Sis are at it again. They both share the same personality, both are extremely bull headed, opinionated, and lack the tact of an elephant. Two years ago my Father sold his car and gave up driving after series of seizures. After the worst of them, my Sister packed her family up and moved in with him to help keep him safe. As you can guess, this has not been smooth sailing. With the Pandemic still on going, my sisters's paranoia, and my father's physical disabilities, none of them leave the house, so they have been getting on each other's nerves like nothing else can.
Today, he calls me up and asks me to take him out car shopping tomorrow. I was supposed to take him to the hospital to have his catheter looked at, but he decided getting a car was more important. I agreed and was going to talk to him about not getting one while we were out. Between the seizures and the cataracts, I do not feel he is safe behind the wheel. My sister found out and she told him the same, but in a less than tactful way. They screamed, they ranted, they came close to blows.. and he is throwing them out. Neither one can survive without the other. They don't make enough money to live on their own and he is too incapacitated to to live alone.
These two have made my life hell for the past 40+ years. I am certain one or the other ruined most of my relationships over the years. All I ever wanted was a quiet life with a little family, and enough left over to not have to worry about retirement. Every time I got close to that, one or two of them would suddenly drop into my life and demand I fix theirs.
Right now I am unemployed due to the pandemic, that is stressful enough. To have to jump in and fix their lives again is too much to ask. I am tired, I am stressed, I live in complete fear they are going to show up at my door and demand to stay with us, and I have very few berks left to give anymore. I can't even stand going over there to take him to the doctor, It sets my Crohn's up into tight knots that take days to recover from.. and now this.
At this point I would love to sell everything, buy a 30 something sailboat, and disappear over the horizon.
Roll up whatever size of joint, or cup of tea that will allow you to stay calm, get the pair of them in the room, and tell them exactly what you just old us. Don't get dragged into a fight, just tell them calmly that their bull is making your life miserable, and if they keep it up, you will remove them from your life.
it just gets worse. She is actually finding a place of their own, leaving a 75 year old man with two artificial hips, a seizure disorder, a faulty heart valve, and cataracts all by himself. He went to the hospital today complaining of chest pain and has been admitted while is practically dancing on his soon to be dug grave. I cannot wait till the day comes with I can tell my sister what I think of her and leave without ever having to see her again. She has, quite literally, been difficult since day one.
If I take a day off, it's going to rain.
In reply to Duke :
Was wondering. So what's the diagnosis?
My shoulder is about 90% now. Unfortunately the arm it's attached to is partially mechanically detached, at least for now