So I flew home to help out my mom and take care of my dad. He spent 4 days in the hospital with pneumonia. The ER doc said that he only had 5% lung capacity in his left lung and that it was the worst case of pneumonia he had ever seen. He's doing a lot better but he's pretty weak. He has trouble going up the stairs. My mom was pretty overwhelmed with everything. She doesn't do well with stress. My dad has pretty much taken care of my mom for the past 40 years and she would be lost without him. I've been making him walk around and do his breathing exercises.
Now tonight, we just got notified that my favorite uncle on my mom's side suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and is in the ICU. He's not conscious and the doctors only gave him a 20% survival rate. He was in pretty bad shape before this; he's suffered multiple small strokes that left him essentially paralyzed on his left side and was pretty much bed ridden the past 6 months. His mental faculties are fading as he doesn't remember his siblings and keeps forgetting that his dad died 9 years ago.
I want to see him in case he doesn't make it but I don't think I could handle seeing him in this state. I want to remember him like he was 25 years ago.
Man this sucks
If his mental abilities are that far gone, don't go see him. It would be one thing if he was just physically weak, but if he doesn't know who anyone is then don't visit.
My last memory of my grandfather is as bedridden, palsied, old man who couldn't speak and didn't recognize his wife, my father, or me and I berkeleyING hate it.
In reply to Mr_Asa :
The neurosurgeon wants to drain some spinal fluid as it's putting pressure on his brain. There is a chance he might regain consciousness but it's pretty small.
I don't want to see him like this
In reply to stanger_mussle :
When I finally got my dad to the hospital they took 18 liters of fluid out of his right lung and he had to have 2 robot surgeries to scrape the inside and outside of his lung. During that he had a heart attacks and they gave him stents. He had to be on blood thinners and they put 82 gallons of blood into him to save his life over 2 weeks. They told me at best he would be an invalid in a nursing home.
He's sitting next to me eating fried chicken and has been chopping wood. He still uses oxygen at times but he's way better than they said he'd be.
I hope that your dad does the same
In reply to Antihero (Forum Supporter) :
Thanks. They put him on oxygen as his O2 was at 84. He has advanced emphysema but feels pretty good. He hasn't had a cigarette in a month. He is regaining his strength everyday. He was diagnosed as pre-diabetic last March but has lost 40lbs through a diet change.
It's been a rough couple of months; first he was hospitalized with AFib, then got a lung cancer diagnosis and then caught pneumonia.
But he is doing a ton better than even a week ago. He hasn't coughed hardly at all and doesn't snore since he's been on oxygen.
Just heard from the hospital about my uncle. They operated on his skull to relieve some of the pressure on his brain. They think the pressure caused another stroke earlier today, which caused his breathing issues and sent him to the ER. They discovered that he is now paralyzed on his right side due to the stroke. And that he has pneumonia.
His prognosis just got much worse. I don't think he'll last much longer
Duke
MegaDork
6/17/21 8:42 a.m.
In reply to stanger_mussle :
So sorry to hear that, man. I hope for the best.
mtn
MegaDork
6/17/21 12:10 p.m.
Probably my best work friend had his last day today. Off to greener pastures. Things are going to fall apart here soon without him; he saw the writing on the wall. I want to stay with the company, and am looking internally, but it is time to brush off the resume. And I'll miss my friend.
Minor win-rant
Clocked in early to lug a move in up to the third floor before it got hot. Which meant lunch came early. Which meant my favorite bbq joint (around the corner from the move) still had skins. Which meant two loaded skin sammiches.
Which means im miserable and over full and struggling now....
First world problem here.....
Why is it always like this?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯ said:
Why is it always like this?
Sounds about right. Going to have to pretend you are a parts store and ask for year, make, and model of the car they were on
In reply to eastsideTim :
You know damn well the answer is "Chevy" with no further clarification.
RevRico
UltimaDork
6/17/21 2:55 p.m.
berkeley Wal-Mart and berkeley Bing.
I use Bing because Xbox rewards points for searching. They have a % cash back that is automatic on their searches. Because of that, I cannot go from the search page to pretty much anywhere other than Amazon because their link forwarding or whatever it is is broken and has been for several years now.
This is a long way of getting to the berkeley Wal-Mart part.
"In stock at 3pm" ok, 3:00:01 and it's now "in stock at 3:10".
3:15 everything goes in the cart, all information filled out, 3 SEPARATE captcha bullE36 M3, promptly to "out of stock".
If your check out system is so much of a clusterberkeley just kill the people who wrote the code and leave their heads outside the back end developers offices as a warning to any other script kiddies you hire. Or, hire or buy a proper checkout system. Your part of the Walton family, your family has a higher net worth than most African and Asian countries, put a little bit of that money into making a functional sales website if you're going to do online sales.
Just further reminding me why I NEVER shop at Wal-Mart for any berkeleying thing at all. I just really want a Series X without paying double retail that all the scalpers with their bots are charging.
Bonus rant, never EVER buy a Lenovo idea pad. I've had 486s that booted up and loaded a web browser faster. What a berkeleying waste of money that computer was, barely good enough to check Bluetooth obd2. Impossible to use for anything else. berkeleying hangs and crashes trying to load Office for berkeleys sake
NickD
MegaDork
6/17/21 3:46 p.m.
NickD said:
In reply to Duke :
I think mine is coming from the coolant reroute and I have a sneaking suspicion that the coolant reroute plate that bolts to the back of the head may have somehow rattled loose. I either need to Loc-Tite, locknut or weld everything to this damn car because it loves to just rattle everything loose. Like the two times it dropped a power plant frame bolt out into the road. Or when the starter tried to fall out in Pennsylvania last year. And I'm still running OEM motor mounts! If I ever put stiffer mounts in it, I feel like the entire car would immediately rattle itself into a jumbled heap of parts on its very first start-up
I ended up being right. The coolant reroute plate had rattled itself really loose. This car makes me look like I don't know how to tighten a bolt. I had to hope the gasket wasn't damaged or hadn't lost it's squish, because I don't have one and Rock Auto lists only one brand and says they are out of stock. So I tightened the bolts down and refilled it. But now, I'm just really nervous about going anywhere with the thing.
In reply to Mr_Asa :
Pretty much fresh fried pork rinds, but nothing like the store bought stuff. Done with some sort of batter, with a little chewey to them, bbq sauce,slaw....
Good god they're delicious. And usually gone by noon.
berkeley HOAs. I swear to god.
Know the worst HOA? The HOA that doesn't berkeleying exist but is still fining you. One of the prime reasons the wife and I chose this neighborhood was that it was old enough that there was no damn HOA. My neighbors work on cars in their driveways, build E36 M3 in their garages, and are generally happily lowering the property values of everyone else around them.
So, imagine my berkeleying surprise when I get an email stating that there's an HOA violation at our place! My berkeleying rental company created an HOA without telling us about it. I'm still trying to figure out if that is legal.
Dusterbd13-michael (Forum Supporter) said:
In reply to Mr_Asa :
Pretty much fresh fried pork rinds, but nothing like the store bought stuff. Done with some sort of batter, with a little chewey to them, bbq sauce,slaw....
Good god they're delicious. And usually gone by noon.
Huh. That sounds delicious, and like I would absolutely hate myself for eating it within an hour, hour and a half.
mtn
MegaDork
6/17/21 4:40 p.m.
Mr_Asa said:
berkeley HOAs. I swear to god.
Know the worst HOA? The HOA that doesn't berkeleying exist but is still fining you. One of the prime reasons the wife and I chose this neighborhood was that it was old enough that there was no damn HOA. My neighbors work on cars in their driveways, build E36 M3 in their garages, and are generally happily lowering the property values of everyone else around them.
So, imagine my berkeleying surprise when I get an email stating that there's an HOA violation at our place! My berkeleying rental company created an HOA without telling us about it. I'm still trying to figure out if that is legal.
I would read through the lease to see if there is any mention of it or anything that would allow it's creation.
In reply to mtn :
I have, I didn't see anything. Forwarded it to my lawyer friend (who specializes in HOAs and other property issues) and he is looking it over.
Mr_Asa said:
Dusterbd13-michael (Forum Supporter) said:
In reply to Mr_Asa :
Pretty much fresh fried pork rinds, but nothing like the store bought stuff. Done with some sort of batter, with a little chewey to them, bbq sauce,slaw....
Good god they're delicious. And usually gone by noon.
Huh. That sounds delicious, and like I would absolutely hate myself for eating it within an hour, hour and a half.
Truth
Just add that you do it every time its available, and get frustrated when it's not. Much like coke....
Mr_Asa said:
In reply to mtn :
I have, I didn't see anything. Forwarded it to my lawyer friend (who specializes in HOAs and other property issues) and he is looking it over.
As a renter, the HOA should've probably been included in any rental paperwork.
Also, your lawyer will probably confirm that the OWNER of the property is on the hook for any HOA voilations. I hope you get to tell them to pound sand.
I'm making chili and just rubbed my eyes without having washed my hands first.
Ow. Dammit.
Brett_Murphy (Agent of Chaos) said:
Mr_Asa said:
In reply to mtn :
I have, I didn't see anything. Forwarded it to my lawyer friend (who specializes in HOAs and other property issues) and he is looking it over.
As a renter, the HOA should've probably been included in any rental paperwork.
Also, your lawyer will probably confirm that the OWNER of the property is on the hook for any HOA voilations. I hope you get to tell them to pound sand.
Owner of the property is the rental company. There is language that they get to fine us for HOA violations. I ignored it till now because there's no HOA.
BlueInGreen - Jon said:
Is there like an unofficial amendment to Murphy’s law that when a starter fails it’s always in a parking lot somewhere and not the driveway...
Well it wasn’t the starter. Or at least my efforts swapping the starter in the church parking lot didn’t result in my wife’s beloved Mazda spinning to life.