Another day, another project.
The pin on the van's 7-way connector that charges the trailer battery has never worked. I know exactly why, too, because I was there when the current brake controller was installed a few years ago: We couldn't find a convenient place to connect the wire. We also knew the van was probably getting traded in soon. Hah! Joke's on future me, past me!
Anyway, I sat down with the Ford body builder's handbook, which is never more than a quick google away, and has info on all sorts of neat electrical tricks built into this van's control modules, like stationary elevated idle control to run a power take off. I found something particularly interesting: shove any standard 40A relay into the spare spot in the fuse box (closest to the top of the photo), and the red wire in the bundle that ends on the driver's side of the firewall will magically be powered only when the van's ignition is on and the battery voltage is still high enough to start the vehicle. Plus, it's already fused, too. This is called the trailer battery charge control relay or something like that, and after putting one in and hooking up that red wire, I now have a trailer charging circuit that can never run my battery dead.
This is why you should always read the instructions. There are lots of other goodies in that handbook, too, so expect more stuff along these lines in the future.