Um...NO!!!

Seems like she was excited about the car and getting information to make a case. I don't see any crazy red flags here.

And if keeping up with the Joneses for her means an eight year old, $2k used car, she is most likely not a big spender who will put you in the poor house.

PeterAK, Married

Have you explained to her how much the car means to you? I had to do that with my wife. She told people I was selling a car before I had fully decided, and then brought home an offer one day. I sat her down and explained that I wasn't ready to sell the car yet. I asked her, that even if she didn't understand my thing with cars, that she not interfere with them. She understood.

I think your wife meant well (and I agree, I think you guys need to chill a little bit). Talk it out, I'm sure everything will work out.

The biggest flaw in her plan is I dont have the money to buy the mazda, and I refuse to get a compact with an auto.

PeterAK wrote: Seems like she was excited about the car and getting information to make a case. I don't see any crazy red flags here. And if keeping up with the Joneses for her means an eight year old, $2k used car, she is most likely not a big spender who will put you in the poor house. PeterAK, Married

+1...and yes, I'm married.

grimmelshanks wrote: she may be being sweet.

Yes, it REALLY depends on how the conversation went. This is what it sounds like to me. However, I don't think I would ever date somebody that thought I would sell MY car to buy THEM a car I didn't even care about.

as long as she doesn't turn you into a newt...

does she weigh more than a duck?

I think this thread is pretty damn hostile.

I also think she was just trying to be more informed before bringing it up to you.

However, i totally agree that an automatic 02 protege is a piss-poor replacement for a neon r/t, and i think you should try , kindly, to explain to her how your needs and motivations are different from hers, and how the neon fits your needs more than the protege would.

Just saying 'NO, THATS FUGGING STUPID BITCH SO BACK OFF AND DONT BE MESSING WITH MY SHIZ!" would not help. Im not saying you would, but that seems to be the implied suggestion of many of the bitter participants of this thread who are better at turning wrenches and steering wheels than they are at making relationships work. Doing that would be bad mmmmk?

Do both of your cars work? If so, who cares if they are "new and shiny"!!!

Tell her to stop thinking about wasting money and just keep driving what she has. If she's seriously making you make a decision that not only wastes money senselessly, but is intended soley to "keep up with the jonses", she needs a reality check.

My SO about punched me in the face while delivering a swift kick to the junk when i mentioned that i was thinking about selling the Celica since i hadn't driven it in months.

That said, she is jonesing HARD for an RX8.

My wife gets it...she rolls her eyes a lot but she get's it (or at least she gets why I get it).

Heard this one recently about a friend of the family...this one is pretty bad. Guys wife has always liked nice cars (mostly new BMWs). She even bought them before they were married. Guy has always liked nice cars, mostly Mercedes. One day guy tells his wife he is going to take her car for the day. That night he informs her that her 530 was more valuable than his E class so he traded it in on a shiny new CLK vert. So now he drives to work in his E class, drives his CLK on the weekends, and she now has a brand new...Honda Civic.

That's low!

My wife discovered that we could save $32 per year by dropping the comprehensive insurance from one of my Miatas.

Then I hit a deer.

Perhaps you were outdoors at the time and overheard our conversation...

We all manipulate to get what we want from others or to get others to behave in a manner that we require/desire. You have done it yourself or else this woman would not be your girlfriend at this point.

I tend not to look for ill will where none was meant. Tends to make you paranoid. So I will give her a pass on this one.

On the other hand, asking a forum of strangers (strange people?) what to do about your GF does make me wonder if your subconscious is telling you something? Marital baggage gets heavier with time,so best not to start with any...sort it out with her; this is what the pre-marriage stage is meant to accomplish.

Platinum90 wrote: as long as she doesn't turn you into a newt... does she weigh more than a duck?

Well we did the nose. And the hat. But SHE'S A WITCH! BURN HER!

One of the first things that gets discussed with me and whoever I might be dating is that no matter what, what I say goes with cars. Of course, there are some exceptions to this, but for the most part, thats what it is. Cars and Guitars, what I say goes.

And I've been with my girlfriend for two years. It helps that she's not into cars and is very happy with her Corolla. I find it boring and really don't like it, but she's happy and its cheap to keep, so thats all well and good.

NOHOME wrote: Marital baggage gets heavier with time,so best not to start with any...sort it out with her; this is what the pre-marriage stage is meant to accomplish.

I got news for you, any baggage is/becomes marital baggage, there's no such thing as purely marital baggage, if there were maintaining a marriage would be easy, instead it's like working on my Cadillac, which I don't miss btw...

(the car, not the marriage)

If you can't lift heavy bags, you shouldn't walk the course. But to the OP, just step back, don't react, think, then talk to her, both get on the same page, then make decision or at least say your peace.

-Jeff (married)

Here's my concern:

So she wants me to buy it to replace my R/T. Um...NO!!! She even went behind my back and got an insurance quote for me as the driver.

She wants to replace her Civic with a Protege. How does this involve replacing his R/T at all? I appreciate the folks trying to give the woman the benefit of the doubt, but as a woman, I call this BS.

That said, if you can afford it, buy her the Protege and sell the Civic for her if you want to maintain this relationship. Make it clear that you're content to make her happy here, but not at the expense of your own happiness (the R/T). There are these things called boundaries, and the original post makes it sound like she pushed them in a negative way.

1988RedT2 wrote: If she's bold enough to pull that mess as your fiancee, just wait until she's your wife.

this^

but, I bet you go through with it anyways... just dont say we didnt warn you

It's impossible to learn this lesson by reading unfortunately you will get to experience it for yourself. Or at least i did