Alzheimers' is the Devil.

My Dad had it.  At first he was just confused once in a while, try to put recycled cans in the dishwasher, then he got to walking around at night.  The cops put on a radio direction finder ankle bracelet; I was there one night when Mom had to go in for a tune up and he woke up at 2:00 am "looking for his valise".  Oy.  Eventually Mom couldn't handle him and he went to a nice nursing home.  3 squares, mid morning and afternoon snacks. good staff. $5600/month. 

Married at 18, knocked out a kid a year for 7 years, NEVER raised his voice.  Worked 40+ as a glass blower for Knolls Atomic Power Lab.

A sad relief, he passed ~8:00 New Years' Day morning.

Evil stuff.

I'm so sorry for your loss Dan 

Sorry for you loss.   I agree, Alzheimers is evil.

Sympathies and positive vibes, friend.

Ive been through it twice so far.  It is a horrible ride.  It makes it even hard for me to talk about.  

My philosophy...  Alzheimers is so cruel that it won't kill you, it just makes living impossible.  

Sorry for your loss, Dan.  In an awkward way, congrats on coming to the end.  If your situation is like my own, the person you loved left a long time ago leaving you only with the empty shell to deal with.  

In the situation of my wife's father, after he passed and she was upset I asked her this question, "if you had the power to bring him back to life but only had the power to bring him back to his final year...would you?"  The answer there is no one would bring someone back to only prolong that horror.  

Dan, I am sorry for your loss.  But I praise your father's freedom.  Remember all the great memories.  

It's awful. I visited my Mom about a year before she died, after she had been moved to a strange building with new staff.

No idea who I was.  Nothing.  I did my mourning then.

Sorry for your loss.

Sorry, Dan...  

Having seen my wife's uncle pass from it, it seems to be really hard for the relatives around them....  So hope you and your mom can find a way to relax this year.

The worst part is when extended family and friends ask "how is your mom" or "is she better". I have to smile and say she is doing ok. It is a complete lie. They know it's a lie. They know they shouldn't ask. They keep asking. It's force of habit. I know it's wrapped in kindness, but it hurts nonetheless. 
 

In a way, that is the one saving grace of 2020; I have had to answer those questions a lot less for most the year. 
 

Bless you and keep you... and give you peace. 

Definitely not a great start to the new year. My heart goes out to you and yours. I can't imagine  going through that. 

I’m so sorry for your loss, doubly hard with the complications of this past year I’m sure.  Hoping for some peace for you, your Mom and the rest of your family.  

Very sorry for your loss. I went through this with my grandmother, its difficult for everyone, even the kids. 

Very sorry for your loss and the hard journey there. I watched my parents go through it with my Nana. It was really tough. I'm sure you will remember the good times and know that he was taken care of at the end. 
Nick

I’m sorry about your Dad. Sounds like he was a great man. 

I am so sorry for your loss.

Losing my mind has always been my biggest fear. It runs in both sides of the family. 

I'm sorry for your loss, went through this with my grandmother 12 years ago and my wife's grandmother 7 years ago it's heart wrenching for everyone involved but remembering who they were has helped immensely. Wishing you and your family the best in the new year.

My condolences. Best wishes in moving forward. 

I'm so sorry for your loss, sounds like he was a good man who worked hard and provided for his family.

It truly is a terrible desease that kills the essence of the people we love long before it kills their body.

Sorry you and your family had to go through this. I lost my step father to it during the 2014 Challenge.

Sad relief is about the best way to put it.

Sorry for your loss.

Thank you folks for the sentiment.  It's a  weird new-to-me ride.  I'm OK with him not knowing my name but he always seemed happy to see me.

I don't expect a cure for Alzheimers right around the corner, but if they can identify "don't lick those lead plates" or "drink good wine and have sex twice daily" as a preventative, I'd like to hear it.

My mother's family owns a funeral parlor downtown; as a large family (9 kids!) of Irish Catholic  Democrats, there has been some parties there!  Not this year - Covid.   Lets take over the Pub next door - Covid.  Going to be quiet here, but at ease and glad-ish that Dad is comfortable and smiling somewhere.

I appreciate your thoughts.

Dan

Sorry for your loss, Dan, but happy for your father's relief.

My father in law went to dementia.  It was very sad to watch and unfortunately it let the conniving harpy he married after DW's mother died get away with ripping off whatever the family had left to pass on.  But that's another story for another thread.

Sincere condolences to your family.

Sorry sir - lost mom to cancer after a 16 year battle.  Sadly it was a relief for her to finally be at rest.  Remember who he was not how it ended.  

I'm sorry to hear about you father, Alzheimer's is difficult on families. You dad sounds like an amazing guy, hopefully at some point you'll be able to celebrate his life with your family!

So sorry to hear about your dad. Alzheimer's is truly awful.