Anyone know how to locate someone?

oh, and consider that the result of your effort could eff up that guy's life. not everyone is as open-minded as you and poopshovel.

AngryCorvair wrote:

Mental wrote: 3 re-left message with wife

what message? just name and number, add "he was a friend of my mom's back in '72" or "he might be my brother's dad"?

Naw. Just name and number, if I get any pressing I will go with "I am looking for someone he may have known back in 1974." He seems like a good dude with a family and good life. I have zero interest in screwing that up.

how weird would it be if someone was reading this and thinking "hey, i got some weird messages just like that today"..

Have you tried Facebook?

I'm sure there's someone that went to the University of Georgia way back then and might remember a person that fits your description

I have his name and number, I haver his sister's Facebook page and he is not on facebook.

Well...

Just got a call.

No matter how many times you practice that conversation, you still stutter.

Thanks to the diety of your choice, he had spoken with his wife before they were married. If you speak to that diety, tell 'em thanks. If you were already asking for some help on my behalf, thank you.

I recognize this is a touch an go of an intimate nature to a board of gearheads, but I thank you all for you support and comments pro and con. It helped.

I am still shaking a bit, but I do actually feel like a big brother right now.

In reply to Mental:

How did you find a PI to assist your search ?

Glad it went well. That was a big call to get, and could have gone very wrong. From what you said, it sounds positive, sounds like you had a tankslapper but kept two wheels down, and have a big straightaway ahead...

Glad to hear that they called back. I know exactly what that feels like - I didn't meet my "real" (read biological) father until I was 28, and it's something that you can't prepare for.

Congrats!

BoxheadTim wrote: Glad to hear that they called back. I know exactly what that feels like - I didn't meet my "real" (read biological) father until I was 28, and it's something that you can't prepare for. Congrats!

i met my biological father when i was 13.. the last time i talked to him was when i was 15.. as i type this, i'm a month away from 37 years old..

and that's just fine with me- not that i have anything against the guy or anything, but the man i knew as my father died in 1984. he married my mom, adopted me, gave me his name, raised me as his own, and taught me how to work on and modify cars....

Luke wrote: Hah, typical car guy memory

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I was thinking the same thing... and proof that car-guy-ness is something some people are just born with.

On a positive note, a couple years ago I found out that I have three half-siblings... the middle child (10 years my junior) found out that I existed along with my mother's first name, and against her family's wishes, tracked down my mom in order to find me. (She's awesome like that) She searched high school reunion sites like Classmates.

I realize that it's a bit late in the thread now for this now-useless info. But hearing from her and meeting her was one of the most extraordinary things I'd ever experienced. She told her younger brother about what she'd done, but he's not interested in making contact. And, from what I'd gleaned, my mom was wise for not getting married.

Chebbie_SB wrote: In reply to Mental: How did you find a PI to assist your search ?

Man, my new job sucks. I don't even have time to cyberslack anymore....

Actually my brother and I found this PI via the actual person who keeps the records. Her specialty is this kind of thing. Some online research and a great many conversations and phone calls convinced me she was the lady for the job.

And how. She said less than a year, she called me 2 1/2 weeks later. I guess she gets a lead an gets pretty tenacious. When she called me she had been up for quite some time. If you need one, I whole heartedly endorse her. She ain't cheap, but she is effective. PM me and I can get you the info

Wow! Congrats to you and your brother, and thanks for sharing. It's great to hear it all turned out. And good for that dad for cluing his wife in before they were married! Really speaks highly of him.

In reply to Mental:

Pretty cool. I never touched on this thread and as a result, I got to see it unfold like this.

As others have said--keep expectations LOW. He literally has nothing to do with your lives.

novaderrik wrote:

BoxheadTim wrote: Glad to hear that they called back. I know exactly what that feels like - I didn't meet my "real" (read biological) father until I was 28, and it's something that you can't prepare for. Congrats!

i met my biological father when i was 13.. the last time i talked to him was when i was 15.. as i type this, i'm a month away from 37 years old.. and that's just fine with me- not that i have anything against the guy or anything, but the man i knew as my father died in 1984. he married my mom, adopted me, gave me his name, raised me as his own, and taught me how to work on and modify cars....

I've only got very loose contact with my biological father and his family, but for me it was still important to have met them.

Doesn't help that for various reasons, I have no contact - and I don't think I want any contact - with the guy whose surname I carry around.