Asking a Woman Her Size

JoeyM wrote: [She knew that I wanted to cast her wedding ring.]

Fantastic.

Or not worry about ring size, give her the engagement ring as it is, and have it sized to her finger, together.

what i did: at some point, when she's playing with one of her other rings, you take it as if you're going to try to put it on, then see which of your fingers it fits on, usually the pinkie unless she has "man hands", or if none, note which finger and to which knuckle it made it to. now you have a size gauge that you'll never forget to take with you, and she has no idea that you know her ring size

Ask her friends?

If you had thought of it a few weeks earlier that Canadian guy could have mailed it to you. Then you could take the ring and finger to the jewler at your lesure

pinchvalve wrote:

Salanis wrote: I'm leaning towards just giving her the ring and letting her wear it on her pinky or a chain until it can be resized.

This. Plus, remember that as soon as the ring goes on, so does the weight. But the sex stops. enjoy!

This is why giving her the too small ring is perfect. Give it to her, blah blah blah, love love love, wearing on the chain. Then when the newness wears off and she says it's too small, you can look her deep in the eyes and say, "Well my love, if you work really hard, in a few months it will fit just right."

Osterkraut wrote:

pinchvalve wrote:

Salanis wrote: I'm leaning towards just giving her the ring and letting her wear it on her pinky or a chain until it can be resized.

This. Plus, remember that as soon as the ring goes on, so does the weight. But the sex stops. enjoy!

This is why giving her the too small ring is perfect. Give it to her, blah blah blah, love love love, wearing on the chain. Then when the newness wears off and she says it's too small, you can look her deep in the eyes and say, "Well my love, if you work really hard, in a few months it will fit just right."

Are you really that brave/stupid

That's not the least bit brave and a whole lot of stupid to say that

And Mr. Salanis, I take this to mean that you have resisted the charms of die Deutsche Maedchen we were discussing a couple of months ago. Good work.

Twin_Cam wrote: And Mr. Salanis, I take this to mean that you have resisted the charms of die Deutsche Maedchen we were discussing a couple of months ago. Good work.

Yep. Deutsche, Russian, Austrian, Spanish, British... Whole lot of resisting quite successfully. One big fight on Skype, followed by me flying her out here for a long weekend about a month ago, some good quality time, and discussions of what will be needed to make things work with the minor chaos my career will be for a little while. Her boss also kind of did us a favor telling her he couldn't get something in writing he's been promising her but he's "sure it will be no problem". Riiiiiight. Gave here a bit better perspective on how loyal she is to her company compared to how loyal they are to her, and that her career does not have to be married to this company.

Mostly flying her out here for a long weekend really meant a lot to her (to both of us, really) and put in focus how important our relationship is.

In reply to Salanis:

My reasoning going into my trip abroad was "we've been through 3 years of relationship and the accompanying BS, if we can't survive 6 months of long distance, we aren't going to survive at the next level (engagement/marriage)". Brings a whole different set of problems to the table, but if the relationship can survive, its much more likely to be a winner. I applaud the two of you.