I am truly sorry for your loss. Please remember to take care of yourself during this trying time. It will get better. You will still have the good memories.
I am truly sorry for your loss. Please remember to take care of yourself during this trying time. It will get better. You will still have the good memories.
I want to thank everyone for the sympathy and well wishes. This beyond hard, I feel so lost and hurt. Reading what everyone has written here or what Kendra's friends have written on her Facebook page brings on uncontrollable tears. She was the best I could have ever wished for and I miss her so much. Kendra deserved better then this, her family needs her. Our daughter Aspen needs her mom.
Wow! I am so sorry for your loss.
In reply to JesseWolfe :
Hang in there, we're pulling for you and Aspen. This is a big hole,its gonna take a lot of shoveling to fill it. My wish for you is peace. I am struggling for words of encouragement but they all fall way short.
Just No words. . . . I do know that there are some members here that have suffered similar losses and I can only hope that they will maybe be able to pass on to you something that may help.
I am so sorry for your loss. We are all here for you if you feel like sharing/venting.
triumph7 said:A number of us here have lost spouses. It sucks. All I can say is, that with time, it will get better. When all is said and done your life may even be better than before (hard to believe right now). Just take care of yourself doing positive things like going to the gym, hiking, whatever you enjoy. Avoid bad things, getting drunk or high won't make life better or change anything.
This was put a lot better than I could have, but is some of the best advice I got. Also, you're going to have some good days, and some really bad days. On the bad days don't be afraid to tell people you need some space. It was a difficult thing to get used to as someone who generally put everyone else first. The only person you owe any of your time and effort to while you sort through this is you daughter.
As has been said, no words can express the hurt.
So very glad you picked here to vent a bit... the folks here really do care.
I still have friends and family in VA (although we're flatlanders!) but if ya need anything...
The folks that put their numbers out really do mean it. Reach out to them, or anyone here, anytime.
Did Kendra enjoy a specific drink? Rum? Pepsi? Beer? Milk?
I would love to send a toast in her (and your) direction with her favorite drink. I never know what others believe, but I think if she's somewhere where she can see us, I would love to thank her for being a wonderful wife to a fellow GRMer, and to a fellow GRMer for loving her through it all.
The world needs people sharing love, and I'm looking to share mine in your vicinity.
There are no words. My most sincere condolences.
So sorry for your loss
In reply to Curtis73 (Forum Supporter) :
Kendra appreciated a good Knob Creek and coke, smoked if she could get it that way.
For anyone wanting to know, my brother typed up and published an obituary.
https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/starexponent/name/kendra-barrett-obituary?id=55711855
Very sorry for your loss.
I have attempted to write something several times. As with many topics here others have said what's important. Look after yourself and your daughter , don't be afraid to ask for help.
It's ok to not be ok when something like this has happened.
Saw this and thought I would bring it back up to the top. Hope you are surviving and doing well, whatever that means at this point. We're still out here thinking about you and pulling for you.
glueguy (Forum Supporter) said:Saw this and thought I would bring it back up to the top. Hope you are surviving and doing well, whatever that means at this point. We're still out here thinking about you and pulling for you.
Second this!! Just checking in on you.
Any specific charity that we can make donations in Kendra's name? I saw the "plant a tree" link in the obituary, but I think that is an obituary default?
I didn't realize you're in VA. I'm in Lynchburg now. I don't have all the answers, but have been down a similar road. If you want to talk or sit down in person you can call or text me at eight zero 3 six zero 8 zero 2 niner 7.
Steve
I missed this the first time around, I am not good in these situations but you have my deepest condolences.
glueguy (Forum Supporter) said:Saw this and thought I would bring it back up to the top. Hope you are surviving and doing well, whatever that means at this point. We're still out here thinking about you and pulling for you.
I'm not doing good, but I am doing. This is every bad dream come true. This was my whole life, everything I lived for, the reason I got up every day to do my best. It's lost and all gone now, ripped away from my daughter and I. It sounds maudlin, but every bit of that is the absolute truth. I had few to no friends, I lived vicariously through Kendra, she was all I needed. I'll find a way through this, for me and our daughter, I just can't see which way to go.
secretariata (Forum Supporter) said:Any specific charity that we can make donations in Kendra's name? I saw the "plant a tree" link in the obituary, but I think that is an obituary default?
I didn't realize you're in VA. I'm in Lynchburg now. I don't have all the answers, but have been down a similar road. If you want to talk or sit down in person you can call or text me at eight zero 3 six zero 8 zero 2 niner 7.
Steve
Anything breast cancer research or treatment, volunteer at your local radiology treatment center. There isn't likely to be an official donation processes or fund for in memorium, unless my siblings set it up.
Not that I expect anyone here to attend, the celebration of life is this Saturday, August 17th in Culpeper VA. The Facebook event page is linked below for any that do want to attend, because all are welcome. There is also a link to the Google Drive photo album being used as the slideshow. Please feel free to peruse it and through pictures learn how beautiful, happy and loved a person Kendra is. Help her memory live on.
https://www.facebook.com/share/KtufmkQLXiSAvxW7/?mibextid=9VsGKo
JesseWolfe said:I had few to no friends, I lived vicariously through Kendra, she was all I needed.
We might be virtual out here but we are all friends through our common interests in cars, racing and whatever. Take your daughter to some car shows (or whatever excites you) and she will see your enthusiasm plus you'll be spending time with HER.
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