I had a little eye opener this evening. I thought Lil Stampie and I had discussed racism in the past. Meaning I guess for what a Arabic friend of mine calls an average white guy I thought I was actively making sure he knew how racism was in America.
For example last weekend I noticed he had a new lock screen on his phone. It was a frog in a hoodie. Lil Stampie has a hoodie addiction and he thought it was a cool pic that he identified with. I told him to Google Pepe the Frog and see if it was the same image. He was surprised that I knew the name of this random cartoon frog he found. I then told him how Pepe the Frog had become a white supremacist symbol. We had a talk not only about how "normalizing" happens but also how others might judge him wrongly if they saw that on his phone. He was deleting the image as we spoke.
So that's a typical talk we've had over the last say 5 years once we've been able to have more understanding talks. I was flipping through the channels tonight and the news was showing the protest going on locally. He asked what was going on. I explained the current situation and gave examples of us talking in this thread. I realized that I had failed to ever explain that racism is mostly a hidden part of our society. He was under the impression that there's a few shiny happy people out there that hate others but overall we're good as a country. As I told him story after story he learned about hidden racism and unconscious bias and the history of oppression we've done but he had no idea.
If you truly care explain to your kids in a way you're comfortable (or uncomfortable as I was but needed to be) what racism means. Not that shiny happy person waving a flag. But that school built on the other side of town on top of the chemical dump while this side of town has beautiful schools. Or that library that has all the old books while this section of town has the brand new remodeled library because of "higher usage level." Hopefully they'll understand.