so i haven't been around a lot lately....

It's a long story....but the point being....that girl I had been with for two and half years to the day (not today but our breaking point) pretty much kicked me in the nuts, ripped my heart out, shat in the open cavity, and then pissed on my heart.

We had been going through a rough time in our relationship, I was working 35-40 hours a week, 15 credit hours, plus my senior research study, etc. I wasn't always there for her emotionally as I was just so drained. So she ran to one of her co-workers to find a friend in need. Well our two and half year mark I was finally going to pop the question, despite the turmoil. I mean going through that kind of thing makes your relationship stronger right?

Well I ask her, she says no, says she's leaving me because I had plenty of opportunities to ask her before this happened. Said she felt like she was the only one fighting for the relationship, etc. When in reality she ran off to someone else for emotional support instead of coming to me, sitting me down, and telling me strait up what was wrong.

Well come to find out she left me for this co-worker. A 28 year old toolbag that works in the lawn and garden section of Target. Been in and out of jail, some college classes, pretty much your pure white trash to a T.

Me on the other hand gave that girl the world, I have the whole world in front of me. I'm about to graduate college, getting ready to buy a home, have a job regardless of what happens once I graduate and I know for a damn fact that I top the kid in looks, not trying to be conceited but...

It is a life lesson and I am thanking to god that this happened now instead of being engaged, or being married, or being married with a kid(s). I've been upset for a while but had a crazy night out did some thigns I shouldn't have but it woke me, got my head out of my ass, and now I realize what I have in front of me and that's a new opportunity in life.....

Sucks man, but you know what berkley her! There's someone out there for you waiting for you to meet her.

That's the most confusing kind of breakup and it's surprisingly common. Hard working guy who's busy or broke but totally enamored with girl, girl leaves him for bum/jerk with no future. I just don't get it.

You know what? Ultimately it's her loss, she'll realize what she did and come running back to me down the road, but I'll be far gone by then. I have lost all my respect for her and her family through this situation as they also said I was the one who was wrong in not giving her the attention, sorry but I was working to provide a future for us....

There is someone out there that will appreciate all of the things I do for then and give it back to me just as well.

For now, I'm going to have a good time, I'm young, single, and have enough money now to buy a new shortblock after returning the ring :)

DirtyBird222 wrote: We had been going through a rough time in our relationship... I wasn't always there for her emotionally as I was just so drained... I mean going through that kind of thing makes your relationship stronger right?

It bites and you hurt. But do learn from it.

The word "make" is not passive. To "make" a relationship stronger takes the work of the parties involved.

Dirty...

Sounds to me like you just got a get-out-of-jail-free card.

Obviously, you liked her a bunch, but she wasnt what you thought she was.

Imagine if she said yes, and decided to hide the other fling... what you would be stuck in down the road.

Sounds to me like you:

1. have a future, unlike them
2. are about to have a lot of free time

Not really my place to say this, but good riddance, go find somebody that is worth it!

 -Bob, who has been there. (like many)

BobOfTheFuture wrote: Dirty... Sounds to me like you just got a get-out-of-jail-free card.......

+1

Now go out and have fun! There are cars, friends and girls waiting.

Enjoy you new found freeodm!! My wife lets me do what ever I want (I'am not that crazzy eny more)

Prettty much take your time and have fun doing so.

You know those few hours you were able to spare from busting ass to spend with her stupid self?

Those hours are now RACING TIME!

Try not to make them all drinking time.

Frankly, sounds like you don't have a whole lot of free time for serious relationships right now anyway. What you need is good friends who will be glad to see you for a few hours of relaxation, and glad to let you go off and be busy for a week.

Remind yourself how lucky you are to be a diligent guy who's gonna amount to something. This woman hurts you now, but in a few years (or less) she'll be nearly forgotten, and you'll be busy enjoying your bright future.

She flaked out and showed how she was immature, not ready for a serious relationship.

So.. Just do yourself a favor, When she's pregnant and moving into a trailer with her mom cause Target douche ran out on her.. DON'T let her back into your life.

DirtyBird222 wrote: pretty much kicked me in the nuts, ripped my heart out, shat in the open cavity, and then pissed on my heart.

Wow! Sorry to hear, sounds brutal.

He must have tattoos.

Me on the other hand gave that girl the world, I have the whole world in front of me.

Precisely. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Some chicks pretend like they want someone stable, knowing deep down they're only truly happy in a self-destructive, drama-filled relationship. I'm sure douche-canoesky can provide that for her.

In the words of Tom Waits: "Forget about her, man! She's a heartbreaker! She did the same thing to me!!!"

Hang in there, bud.

EDIT: Oh, and yes, thank GOD you didn't marry her.

spitfirebill wrote: He must have tattoos.

exactly....she'd been bugging me to get more, but yea....

I can finally get around to finishing the Trans Am, Thursday it'll have a new catback on it, next week I should finally be able to finish sanding it, then primer it. Paint should be in the near future.

I can also put a lot more hours into the challenge car, I can make it out to more AutoX events, track days once the T/A is done.

I have had a few nights of drinking, but not trying to get in that rut, I've been hard at work with new work out as well and already seeing results after 4 weeks, don't want to ruin that.

Honestly, I feel like a different man now, a new man, I'm taking this as a big life lesson.

I’ve experienced a similar relationship…3 ½ relatively happy years of dating / living together following by 3 ½ years marital hell. By the end, I was working two jobs to keep the bills paid while being a full time graduate student of engineering and her contribution was to have her lips permanently affixed to a bong only removing them occasionally to make room for a certain piece of some guy’s anatomy.

She moved back to her home State under the premise that I’d clean up our financial mess, finish school, & then move out to join her. The day she left, I went into extreme miserly mode and in short order, a significant financial turnaround was evident.

She called me on a Friday morning at work ten weeks after we separated to let me know that she was going to a Robert Plant concert that night. I envisioned going home to a cold dark house that evening and having nothing to do but think about what my wife was doing.

In uncharacteristic form, I just started taking action without thinking things through…I removed my wedding ring, pitched it in my desk drawer, & told her that I’d get the divorce proceeding started ASAP but more importantly, that I considered the marriage to be terminated at that moment.

I spent the remainder of the day engineering the most reliable means of quickly acquiring reasonable grade boo-tang possible.

I’ll spare everyone the graphic details and only say that at precisely 10:37 PM that night, the mission was accomplished….I remember the specific time because the clock started at 10:42 AM that morning when I broke up.

They say men are only as trustworthy as their options…I’m sure that’s true in many cases, but in mine, I was a completely decent, good man to her for seven years and yet, it took less than twelve hours to get what I wanted once the gloves came off.

The point I’m making is that you can’t use her lack of appreciation of you as a proof that you’re not worthy…for a number of reasons, it’s common for people to foolishly throw wonderful things away.

Go find some break-up boo-tang and when she gracefully falls asleep, have a nice glass of wine while listening to this:

mission was accomplished as the sun was rising in new symrna beach, fl on memorial day. That's why I'm back up and running, I feel like a million bucks

you just wait, she will be back in 6 months guaranteed!! she will she what she gave up and see what she has now. Has happend to me before...

I spent the remainder of the day engineering the most reliable means of quickly acquiring reasonable grade boo-tang possible.

Quoted for awesome.

And like a wiser feller than myself once said: "The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody."

“Every woman needs one man in her life who is strong and responsible. Given this security, she can proceed to do what she really wants to do-fall in love with men who are weak and irresponsible.”

"You can lead a whore to culture, but you can't make her think."

http://lyricwiki.org/Dr._Dre:Housewife said: Now this this is one of them occasions where the homies not doin it right I mean he found him a hoe that he like But you can't make a hoe a housewife And when it all boils down you gonna find in the end a bitch is a bitch, but a Dogg is a man's best friend So what you found you a hoe that you like But you can't make a hoe a housewife

'Bird,

Good thing you found out about her character before you married her. You're better off for it. You don't have to call her (or infer she's) a whore. Just take some time for yourself and do what you want. The best ones come along when you're not really looking for them. Enjoy yourself and don't take her back when she calls in two months.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Have fun,

Jerry

If I love my ex-girlfriend for anything (4 weeks after our breakup now), it's that she was realistic and honest.

We both knew that our relationship wasn't working...and that it probably wouldn't until one of us is finished with school.

That, and quite a few other things.

Either way, better to find out these things before you get married.

A friend of mine always says, "never treat a lady like a btch, and never treat a btch like a lady"

similarly, "you can take the girl outta the trailerpark, but you can't take the trailerpark outta the girl"

be sure not to take her back, she's already showed her hand, and you know it's not going to improve.

I feel your pain... I'm in the middle of the same kind of situation, except we did get engaged, bought the house, and spent 4 years gutting, renovating, and building "our masterpiece". March she tells me, "Its not what I want. I'd rather live my entire life alone than be married to you." Thanks. Its been a great 7 years. Now I occupy the guest room, and she has the master. She said she was going to buy me out, but that was at the end of March, and I'm still waiting for her to finalize the papers. Next is fighting over all the E36 M3 inside the house. That will be a boatload of fun for sure, since the last 3 conversations we've had (in as many weeks) have ended with one of us saying, " berkeley you " So now here I am, unemployed finance guy, no job, no fiance, no home, no money. People have told me its a wonder I haven't started sucking on my car's tailpipe yet. Yeah, thanls for the support!
It sounds like you've turned the corner to a greener pasture. Hopefully I will be joining you soon. I've got a few things lined up, just waiting to get my E36 M3 settled... then look out world!

Rusty_Rabbit84 wrote: you just wait, she will be back in 6 months guaranteed!! she will she what she gave up and see what she has now. Has happend to me before...

Bet it won't take that long.