That poor kid, or that escalated quickly.

I always took the relaxed approach... might explain why I am unmarried in my 40s

Potentially applicable question: why had the GF's stuff been confiscated by her mom in the first place?

I'd not go so far as to be assuming that the GF was somewhat complicit in all of this- but it's also probably a bit niaive to assume that she's not because she goes to church and has strict parents. As a PK who knew many other PK's with MUCH stricter parents than I had I can definitely say that the stricter the parents were the wilder the kids tended to be when not under their watchful eye (mine were pretty relaxed and lenient with me- and thus I felt no real need to constantly rebel against it).

Everybody knows what happened though, and hopefully DoctorBlade's son at least keeps his eye out for any potential problems down the line. There's no reason to assume guilt- but also no reason to not be aware and watch out for trouble.

Couldn't momma check to see what the girl had sent?

Never text what you wouldnt put in a written letter to someone. Never write what you wouldn't say to their face. Photos that make it on the internet NEVER go away and NEVER remain contained. So don't send it or put it up if you wouldn't stand in public with it.

The ease of communication these days means people put less thought into what they are sending. The lack of thought and foresight is what gets people into trouble.

Not to say that the young man isn't being a total creep...

OMG what a canoe

Canoe deleted.