I'm sorry to hear this and wish you all of the best.
Nobody has said Las Vegas yet, so I'll throw that out there.
Asheville, NC has been brought up. If you decide to swing through Raleigh on the way anywhere, let me know and I'll buy you a beer. Heck, Raleigh (Chapel Hill and Roxborro, really) and Charlotte are not bad in their own rights, either.
In reply to psteav:
You alls dont live too far from me.
Curtis, come to the challenge, we will make you forget a lot of E36 M3, maybe permanently 
aussiesmg wrote: Curtis, come to the challenge, we will make you forget a lot of E36 M3, maybe permanently
This is a good plan.
Ouch. That is tough man.
Somewhere in Oregon is where I would be looking. Portland. Bend. Eugene. The whole area is good for what you want. Austin and San Antonio are pretty good spots too.
Santa Cruz and San Diego would be great, but are pricey.
If you don't mind the Texas heat, Austin might be what you're looking for. Plus I hear they've got a neat little track near the airport (OK, it's a berkleying awesome facility).
Hey man, I might be landing in the Seattle area soon so if you DO make it up to the PNW with your motorcycle and Impala we'll HAVE to go cruisin. 
paranoid_android74 wrote: We tried the DIY divorce approach, to keep things amicable. It didn't work. In fact I don't think it can work. Basically I got berkleyed and we haven't spoken in ten years. We used to be best friends. Hiring a lawyer is expensive, but the only way to go.
Every situation is certainly different, but when my ex and I split, we had already made a list we agreed upon before we each talked to our lawyers. Mine looked it over and said what would be applicable under state law, picked a number for child support that was lower than the max she would have a chance at getting, but not so low to be worth the extra cost to her to fight for it.
It took several years, but we get along pretty well now.
I would sell all I could of my stuff and head to California - then drive the entire Pacific Coast Highway while living in a cheap van and then I would head to Alaska and see how far north I could drive. That would kill a year of two - then come back and get a job.
Another vote for Asheville, Not to mention all the great finds in Atlanta are just a few hours away.
The only downside to Asheville is it is in North Carolina,. Outside of Asheville gets risky. As mentioned here before, the state government is less than - non-straight, non-white, non-conservative, friendly. You will have that problem in NC, SC, and TN.
Greenville, SC is trying to be LGBT friendly but not really the closest you are going to get is hippie. Chattanooga is the same way, but they are having explosive growth with the Automotive industry so maybe that will change as more outside influences come in.
Source: That is my home. I was raised 40 minutes from Asheville in Tn. Chattanooga was our getta way spot and lived in Greenville SC for 4 years. I moved to the Northshore of NOLA a year ago in August in and haven't been happier, but your right, not RV friendly.
I will ask my cousin her recommendation. She helps run a NFP in ATL for LGBT. She might have a better recommendation.
I won't say sorry for your situation. For experiences make us who we are. I will say that the pain will go away, you have friends, life will get better for you than it is today.
NerdWallet.com compiled this matrix. Many have been mentioned before.
Rank / City / Equality index / Percentage of households that are same-sex partners / # gay hate crimes per 100,000 residents / Overall gay friendliness score
1 Palm Springs, CA / 95 / 8.60% / 11.1 / 72
2 San Francisco, CA / 100 / 2.60% / 2.6 / 69.4
3 Seattle, WA / 100 / 1.80% / 1 / 69.3
4 Long Beach, CA / 100 / 1.40% / 0.6 / 68.8
5 Cambridge, MA / 100 / 1.10% / 0 / 68.8
6 Los Angeles, CA / 100 / 0.80% / 0 / 68.1
7 Portland, OR / 100 / 2.00% / 2.7 / 68
8 Philadelphia, PA / 100 / 0.60% / 0 / 67.7
9 San Diego, CA / 100 / 1.10% / 1.4 / 67.4
10 New York, NY / 100 / 0.70% / 0.8 / 67.1
11 St. Louis, MO / 100 / 1.00% / 1.6 / 67
12 Chicago, IL / 97 / 0.80% / 0.1 / 67
13 Denver, CO / 97 / 1.30% / 2 / 66.3
14 Berkeley, CA / 95 / 1.50% / 1.8 / 66.2
15 Albany, NY / 95 / 1.00% / 1 / 65.9
16 Northampton, MA / 64 / 5.40% / 0 / 65.8
17 Hartford, CT / 95 / 0.70% / 0.8 / 65.5
18 Madison, WI / 95 / 1.30% / 2.1 / 65.4
19 Austin, TX / 91 / 0.90% / 0.1 / 65.2
20 Rochester, NY 89 / 1.10% / 0 / 65.1
Also HRC.org has the Municipality Equality Index That looks like a fun list. enjoy the drive
Sorry to hear about all the Curtis. I hope for the best on where ever you go.
I vote Nola. I love that place.
Also I agree with the advice of getting yourself a lawyer...
Wow, sorry about the situation, sounds like a heartbreaker. As I'm sure you know, your wife is pretty likely to regret this in the not so near future and try to come crawling back. I would put as many miles between you two as possible before that happens though.
Ann Arbor and. Lansing are actually reasonable spring to fall destinations, but it wouldn't wish their winters on you. If you are willing to brave the cold, And willing to spend sometime across the border, both Vancouver and Toronto have exactly the scene you're looking for, but with friendly supportive Canadian culture as an added bonus.
aussiesmg wrote: Curtis, come to the challenge, we will make you forget a lot of E36 M3, maybe permanently
Hey, that's true- want to wrench on a MINI Cooper S? I could use a team mate who could make this thing sing!
Flight Service wrote: NerdWallet.com compiled this matrix. Many have been mentioned before. 1 Palm Springs, CA / 95 / 8.60% / 11.1 / 72 2 San Francisco, CA / 100 / 2.60% / 2.6 / 69.4 4 Long Beach, CA / 100 / 1.40% / 0.6 / 68.8 6 Los Angeles, CA / 100 / 0.80% / 0 / 68.1 9 San Diego, CA / 100 / 1.10% / 1.4 / 67.4 14 Berkeley, CA / 95 / 1.50% / 1.8 / 66.2 Also HRC.org has the Municipality Equality Index That looks like a fun list. enjoy the drive
From that list it makes it seem like LGBT folks pay a tax to live their lives. Then again, California is all about taxes for living a certain type of life. Honestly, I'll take that taxes for the weather they get.
Flight Service wrote: Another vote for Asheville, Not to mention all the great finds in Atlanta are just a few hours away. The only downside to Asheville is it is in North Carolina,. Outside of Asheville gets risky. As mentioned here before, the state government is less than - non-straight, non-white, non-conservative, friendly. You will have that problem in NC, SC, and TN.
Asheville ... it's nick-name is little SF .. if that tells you anything (I live 10mi. east)
the bolded part.... NC actually elected a Republican Governor, for (I think) the second time in the last 100 yrs ... and the Legislature is also Republican controlled ... for the first time in at least 100 yrs ... not that either of these things are necessarily a good thing .. the Dems of the state have been doing nothing but whining since the "gerrymandering" of the voting district lines (they forget that they've been doing the same thing for ever)
but neither of those things (the government things) will make the LGBT thing any easier here in the Bible belt
but we do have all 4 seasons ... winter is relatively mild (the last 2 yrs of zero snow) the 2 before that were huge (for us) but very little in the previous 15 yrs
the summers aren't all that hot ... low 90's about as hot as it gets
a-x = a local club that runs a night series , CCR & ETR are ~ 2hrs away
Road Atlanta (3 - 3 1/2hrs) CMP (3 hrs) VIR (3 1/2 hrs) CMS ( 2 + hrs)
if for any reason Cleveland comes into play, i am looking to rent a house in an up and coming artsy area, and my uncle is a tranny and active in the LGBT advocacy community so i'm sure he/she could point you in the proper direction if you're trying to hook up with bi-chicks.
AquaHusky wrote: In reply to psteav: You alls dont live too far from me.
Give me 24 guesses, and I bet I can guess what street you live on.
I was going to suggest Madison WI. It's the hippie capital of Wisconsin.
If your looking to escape your pain by running, you won't. I spent years running from mine, never succeeded. Wherever I went, I brought my pain with me. I beat you by three days in the psych ward, but then I actually made two feeble attempts.
If you want to go, and there's really nothing holding you anywhere, spin the globe as well, not just the map.
Ward and June ain't always bad. The can give a wonderful sense so love, security and stability. Without a few in my life, I would never have lived.
Since you ain't hung up on getting help and talking to a shrink, do so. Oddly, when you let them do their job with you, they can actually help.
Love ya Curtis, always enjoy reading your posts. Pm me if you wish, and I'll let you run up my phone bills any time.
One day at a time. Never anything more.
Curtis, check in now and then, worried about you mate.
Checking in...
Wife and I are emailing regularly (I know it sounds impersonal, but we are both writers/readers) She emailed last night late and said she didn't want to lose me and was actually very hopeful which is not like her 
10 years ago with our polyamory I could have been the best friend who lived in the guest room, but her slow marginalization of my emotional state means that isn't possible. I stated my case and I'm awaiting a reply. We txt and phone during the day, but the heavy stuff is best comprehended in email.
I wanted to clarify a couple things... The "requirement" of LGBT wasn't a requirement at all. As someone said, the more open a community, the more open the community. LGBT is a vague indicator of the socio-political timbre of an area. It doesn't have to be SF rainbows, just that it can't be all banjos and baptists.
Also, I'm not really running from pain with a move, I'm simply bench-dreaming to keep my mind looking forward. If I suddenly found myself dumped and had to find a new home on the spot I would feel stressed and make a hasty decision. If I have a plan (or at least some ideas and dreams) I can have that one little thing ready for d-day if it happens.
Thanks all for the ideas and support. I'm feeling much better today.
banjos and baptists....I am going to use that one.
Just be very careful what you look for. You might find it.
curtis73 wrote: Thanks all for the ideas and support. I'm feeling much better today.
Good....I'm glad to hear it (....and sure everybody else is, too.)
Now think about the challenge.
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