I grew up Protestant (United Church of Christ). I'm not an atheist, but I am in no way a Christian anymore, either. It's important to note as you read this that this is MY experience and has nothing to do with anyone else. I'm not a church-basher. I never understood why some people (Bill Maher, looking at you) take issue with religious texts and therefore jump to the conclusion that simply because they don't believe THAT text, ipso facto God can't exist. I mean if I tell you that the new Chevy Volt comes with a V12, you'd call bullE36 M3, but you wouldn't use that as a rationale for why chevy never existed because that tidbit about them isn't true. God can exist without being the one specific god in one specific text that you don't agree with. Also, in your brain, god might not exist. That's cool too.
In hindsight, I never really had "the faith" to begin with. I played the part and believed all the things I was told, but it never took root I suppose. I saw others around me having real (and fake) spiritual experiences and remember thinking that I never even really had a fake one. Once I started getting older and a bit more critical in my thinking, some of the contradictions and justifications just became too great to swallow. I am now 48 and finding myself having to un-do all of the tacit and implicit biases, discriminatory mindsets, and hateful permissions that the (my) church experience gave me. I look back at all the not-so-sensitive jokes, comments, or phrases I've spoken in my life wondering how many people in earshot felt marginalized by them. Cringeworthy.
I've never felt closer to [insert maker/higher power/god here] than I ever was with the church in the way. I felt like a huge rock was tied to my ankle preventing me from actually learning how existence actually works. I strayed from the flock, so to speak, which is disappointing and frightening for the shepherd, but it turns out it's pretty cool for the lamb that got away once he realized that the wolves were just a parable.
But you will never hear me bash any of you for your religious choices. To me, every person makes choices and has their own path in their life. How they choose to practice their faith is just as valid as the next's... but the important caveat is that it is YOUR (a general "your," not anyone here) personal faith. Your personal faith does not give you the right to make life harder for the people and groups you don't agree with. I'm a pacifist and I have never lifted a hand to another human in my life, but that resolve gets tested frequently.
Here's the point. Either god exists or she doesn't. Not my job to convince anyone of anything. Regardless of whether or not we or I believe in a god, there are two basic possible outcomes:
- There is a god which may or may not mean there is an afterlife
- There isn't a god... which may or may not mean there is an afterlife.
I find it pointless to stress about it until I'm dead... at which point I may or may not even exist. I'll let you know if I exist after death. Look for a post from DecayingCurtis if I die.