This is getting scary. He was much younger than I am. Too much death going on.
They took my neighbor out in a body bag last weekend. They found her dead in the house. Covid got her. The landlord put her stuff out on the curb for bulk trash pickup. I saw it all out there this morning when I left for work.
Now people disappearing here for good.
I honestly thought that I would lose my 90 year old mother by now and that the nasty virus would have come for me by as well.
Strange times.
Saw a link for "plant a tree in his honor". Great idea - done.
I've long thought that trees would be superior to headstones and I've asked that my family take the tree route for me. (even though I hope it is a long long time from now).
In reply to Snowdoggie (Forum Supporter) :
Amen brother, far too much of this going around.
Really sad to hear about Donebrokeit and Ultraclyde, both of whom had a lot to contribute here.
Found out last week that one of my best friends from college lost his mother early last month. That one really hit me hard, his family is super tight and they're all genuinely some of the best people I've had the pleasure of meeting.
Dammit. Far too young.
I made a donation to OMBA, planted a tree, and searched FB and connected with David's wife. She expressed her thanks and will hopefully post here.
Ahh nutz. He will be missed.
Everyone else, take care. Do what you can to stay healthy!
Scott
Hello GRM family. This is Ultraclyde's wife. First of all I am so sorry I did not inform the community of Ultraclyde's passing. He loved this community so much and loved sharing all of projects with you.
For this who have asked he had a sudden stroke that led to a heart attack. It all happened in a matter of minutes.
Thank you all for the touching words and support. It means so much.
Now that I have my own account I will check in more. I will need this community's help in a few months selling some things that only this community will know the true value of.
Oh no no no I can't believe this
Mrs UC, don't apologize please, you have enough to deal with. I am so sorry to hear of this. He was a neat guy, always helpful and fun especially in bike threads.
In reply to N :
Seriously, if we don't start taking better care of ourselves GRM is going to have to rebrand as "Hard Parked Monthly"
golfduke said:He was SO excited for that godforsaken boat :( I followed that thread and the prior one closely.
The neighbor on the other side of me died about 5 years ago. He had a non running boat in his driveway that he was always meaning to fix up. It was a cool old boat from the 60s with a matching Sears outboard. Blue and white. When the house flippers bought his house from the mortgage company they hired a crew to haul everything he owned into a trash dumpster to to get out of the way for the refurbishment. Everything this poor man owned went into a landfill. Everything. The acquisitions of a lifetime. The guy across the street swiped the outboard and sold it to a scrap metal company to make a few bucks. Four guys lifted the boat off the trailer and dumped it into the dumpster. Then they picked up the trailer that had two flat tires by that time and tossed it in the dumpster on top of the boat. They were in such a hurry to get the house done and back on the hot real estate market. I'm surprised they didn't throw his body in the dumpster along with the boat and the rest of his stuff.
It makes me think of all of my unfinished projects and where they might go when I die.
It really makes you think.
In reply to MrsUltraclyde :
MrsUltraclyde, you are on a very rough road. There are several people on this board who have lost a spouse. My wife is a widow from her first husband, whom she lost when she was 31. When you have a moment, you may want to check out this site: soaringspirits
If you ever just need to talk to someone who understands what nobody else seems to understand, please feel free to PM me and I will put you in contact with my wife.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Matthew
MrsUltraclyde said:Hello GRM family. This is Ultraclyde's wife. First of all I am so sorry I did not inform the community of Ultraclyde's passing. He loved this community so much and loved sharing all of projects with you.
For this who have asked he had a sudden stroke that led to a heart attack. It all happened in a matter of minutes.
Thank you all for the touching words and support. It means so much.
Now that I have my own account I will check in more. I will need this community's help in a few months selling some things that only this community will know the true value of.
Lean on us! We have your back. Sending you love.
In reply to MrsUltraclyde :
David will be truly missed on here. We shared a love of boats and the salt marshes down here on the coast. He was a great man who left his mark on all of us. My condolences to you and your family.
In reply to MrsUltraclyde :
So sorry for your lose. He will be missed.
MrsUltraclyde said:Hello GRM family. This is Ultraclyde's wife. First of all I am so sorry I did not inform the community of Ultraclyde's passing. He loved this community so much and loved sharing all of projects with you.
For this who have asked he had a sudden stroke that led to a heart attack. It all happened in a matter of minutes.
Thank you all for the touching words and support. It means so much.
Now that I have my own account I will check in more. I will need this community's help in a few months selling some things that only this community will know the true value of.
Please don't hesitate to ask anything at all. We are all a family, albeit a remote one... Thoughts to you and your family during this time.
In reply to Snowdoggie (Forum Supporter) :
So the answer to this is to have 3 people, whom you've communicated with, that are the contingency plan for the hobby and project stuff. Communicate the plan and expectations of what's to be sold off and expected or potential value of said items. Discuss with them if there's anything that they'd appreciate having and document it with them and immediate family, in writing/text/email. The reason why you plan with three is in case something happens to one, then the burden, workload and coordination is still shared amongst multiple people, and if there's a need to accelerate the speed of things getting done, it's easier to manage doing so.
Also, I appreciate you bringing up this uncomfortable topic. I brought this up with multiple people who are on the forum, in conve off of it, within the past 48 hours, and I was uncomfortable as to where or how to bring up this topic comfortably.
Thanks for doing the sleuting needed to let us all know.
Dave will be missed here.
He got me started with Odoban after his car cleaning video that he posted here after the rona started. Ive been recommending it to people since then. I'll continue to remember him whenever i use it.
Terrible news. We're here for you, MrsUltraclyde
Ugh, more E36 M3 news. Very sorry for your loss.
Going to miss him in the Zoom Chats. We need to do one sometime soon. Those are always fun!!!!
In reply to MrsUltraclyde :
Now back at the desk...
Earlier today, when I read your response, I was in my car eating lunch. I'm glad I asked for extra napkins with my order because as I read your posting I was drying my eyes and wiping my nose. Some of it was selfish introspection of not wanting to go through the same. Some of it was that your response, made it real. But, also, having read the obit, I realize that you two have been together for more years than you've been apart.
I appreciated seeing your words that you would chime back in. One thing I like about that was that you seem to understand and Dave seems to have shared what this place is about. But then, I wonder if you really know what this place is about...it ain't' just cars!
So, in my ramblings here, I guess what I'm trying to get to is:
1. you'll be left with a giant hole that was DAVE.
2. we here can be a big resource.
So, let us be some of that continued voice of Dave. It might even be something trivial like this: It's time for a new washing machine and that might be the type of thing where you would have turned to Dave for, "should we spend to fix or just replace?" "If we replace which one should we get?" Bring those questions here and let us be some of that voice of Dave.
We're open 24 hours. You can ask those questions at any time and like myself, you may be surprised how quickly real answers come your way. Dave cultivated a great reputation here and all of that reward can still be yours.
-John, but willing to sound like Dave.
Since we've never met, personally or virtually I can imagine one thought you might have is, "these were Dave's mechanic friends." As an example, I'll put forth this recent thread that might give you some good insight to the level of inelegance around here: https://grassrootsmotorsports.com/forum/off-topic-discussion/what-do-you-do-for-a-job/187677/page1/
PS: the washing machine is just one example but the reason I used that example is because I own the specific model that I do from discussion here on GRM.
Dammit, I was hoping for better news
Captdownshift (Forum Supporter) said:In reply to Snowdoggie (Forum Supporter) :
So the answer to this is to have 3 people, whom you've communicated with, that are the contingency plan for the hobby and project stuff. Communicate the plan and expectations of what's to be sold off and expected or potential value of said items. Discuss with them if there's anything that they'd appreciate having and document it with them and immediate family, in writing/text/email. The reason why you plan with three is in case something happens to one, then the burden, workload and coordination is still shared amongst multiple people, and if there's a need to accelerate the speed of things getting done, it's easier to manage doing so.
Also, I appreciate you bringing up this uncomfortable topic. I brought this up with multiple people who are on the forum, in conve off of it, within the past 48 hours, and I was uncomfortable as to where or how to bring up this topic comfortably.
Isn't it sad that we not only have had this conversation twice in a short time, but that it happens frequently enough that we have a tried-and-true plan for helping?
Mrs. UltraClyde.... I'll help in any way I can.
To Dave's family, and all of those people who knew and loved him, I'm very sorry for your loss.
Edit: I thought about this for a couple of minutes, since it seems to me that my response feels kind of superficial. It's hard to find the words to convey what I'm feeling.
Mrs Ultraclyde, you can be sure that we are here for you.
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