How many here can blame their divorce on cars?

Give me a little more time...

Cars weren't the cause of my divorce but she didn't understand (or care for) my hobbies.

I remember being told I had to wait 9 months to put a $200 exhaust on my Mustang (so I could at least drive it) but got snubbed at the last minute for a $600 fishtank that we didn't need

After everything fell apart, depression plus automotive ADD led to a long list of cars in a short order.

For awhile, I trusted beaters more than I did women. At least when I was broken down on the side of the road, my car(s) wouldn't just say "No, I'm fine." LOL

My GF of 7 years wasnt into it for the first year, then she borrowed a car and drove at a track day. Now she can outdrive me on some occasions, especially if she is in our miata.

She is bad for my wallet though. Ill see a cheap car and she will ask why its not bought yet.

Woody and I met earlier this spring while I was cleaning out a garage containing a TR8 coupe, and enough parts to build 2 more. I know for fact that the stuff I was removing caused a divorce. Garage needed to be emptied in order for the house to be sold as part of the divorce settlement. When I got all that wonderful stuff home, it almost caused a second divorce.

I don't blame the cars for the end the of my first marriage but my ex wife did.
I told her before we got married that 85% of my life revolves around cars, tell me know if that's gonna be a problem. She waited four years.

I was a little worried coming into this thread but it's got a surprisingly upbeat feel to it. I've been in 3 serious relationships over the past 16 years and cars didn't contribute to the failure of the first two. The third, well.. we're operating a mobile mechanic business together now (she works on cars too), which is going great but seems to be the highest stakes so far for cars causing a relationship failure! Wish me luck!!

My wife doesn't get the car thing. For most of our marriage her attitude has been from slightly confused to amused.

However in the last 18 months I've been in 3 wrecks and totaled 3 cars.

She is much less amused now and I'm having to let my car bug lie low for a while.

My wife and I haven't let cars negatively impact our relationship. She gets that I like cars, and I compromise so that my interest in cars doesn't negatively impact our family. She's searched and found (and helped pick up) several cars that I've bought, and I've sold cars when we wanted the cash or when they didn't fit into our plans. In my mind, she's a keeper.

So over the years my wife's co-workers (other woman) have asked her how she deals with the hobby.

She gives several replies; He's either at the track, his friends fab shop or the track. If he comes home late I know he's been discussing things like rebound damping and roll centers with a bunch of guys. He's not going to gamble or hang out at some strip club (we're in Vegas) because no way is he giving some casino or woman his tire money.

Due note she was my pit crew when I road raced motorcycles. She'd come to the car races more but she can't be out in the sun much due to Lupus and the meds that keep it in check.

The bonus side is she has a personal mechanic, I help her family out with all things automotive. She was on board with my son autocrossing a kart, her sister freaked that we put an 8ys old in a 50mph kart but she liked that we do father son car stuff.

I repeatedly tell people I hit the wife lotto; our first date was to see "Full Metal Jacket" While on our honeymoon she asked to go see a movie then picked "Good Fellas". Last week she said "Lets go see Dunkirk" She also a impeccable taste in cars, granted we can't afford most of them; 356, 911, XK120 E-type, AC Cobra, F40 and various muscle cars.

The only time she ever got close to saying something about a car is on my D-sports racer but that was only because she could see that while I loved driving it , I hated owning it. When I did finally say it had to go all she said was "your not enjoying it". She likes the Formula 500.

Off the fellow racers or car guys I know who did end up divorced it wasn't so much the cars. They either failed to strike any sort of balance (gee honey I know the microwave is broken but I need a titanium exhaust etc) or they should not have married each other.

I have a friend who I don't see much anymore I'm amazed he's still married; his cash sucking hole of a Subaru is just a symbol of his overall impetuousness.

My wife still laughs at my "for every person in the world there is that one soul you would live, die and do anything for at a moments notice, pray you never meet them"

You guys stopped messing with cars long enough to meet women? Amateurs.

My wife told me to buy the 323 GTX I saw for sale.

Traded it in for a new one 24 years ago.

So many guys spend so much time complaining about their wives I wonder why they got married in the first place. I'm 16 years in as of Thursday and still head over heels in love. You know you don't have to get married, right? Some people seem to forget that step is voluntary.

I went through a dozen or more cars between the time we met and the time we got married. Including stripped out shells and cut up scrap heaps. She knew what she was getting into that's for sure! And yet she still said yes, I don't know why.

The even littler one is in a stroller I'm pushing.

nah, my wife met me while i was rebuilding a rotary on the coffee table and a shovey 350 in the garage. She can never say she wasn't warned

I did, however, lose a girlfriend because she felt like she came in second to my truck (she was right, if I'm honest).

Which lead to my next girlfriend who apparently put me in her sights as soon as she saw my 383 stroker project in the bathroom of my apartment.

I bought my '97 GSX a few months after my first wife & I had started dating, and she absolutely went through the roof over it. Note that we weren't even living together at that point, nor was any her money(not that she had any) involved in the purchase. Hindsight being 20/20, I should have realized that was the end right there...but, no, I'm an idiot and it took another 7-years before I finally accepted the fact that I was not responsible for her happiness, nor would anything I do ever make her happy. At least I got a wonderful daughter out of it though!

mazdeuce wrote: Not yet, but not the lack of trying.

I was just thinking, "why didn't I think of that"?

I bought a $400 "project" weeks before each wedding, neither seemed to deter her.

2nd date with my now wife...

I ran some engine parts from the 964 through the dishwasher last week. She didn't bat an eye.

Nope, no problems with our hobby.

John Welsh wrote: No divorce but no marriage. At the age of 27 I had been dating the same girl about 3 years. I had some money saved. I bought a Miata. She would have rather I bought a ring. Six months later I saw the light and we broke up. Twenty three years later, I still have the Miata.

This is awesome. Made the right choice.

Luckily my long term girlfriend is perfect.

She puts up with me owning multiple vehicles and motorbikes. Constantly changing vehicles too.

Now I seek her opinion, on if I should unload something. She's usually always right :)

Streetwiseguy wrote: Cars were a reasonable excuse. The fact that we had nothing in common was the real source.

I feel like you are channeling my life.

When my wife and I first started dating I had a engine in the bathtub de-greasing. So she knew the story.

She always says she would rather me smell like motor oil then cheap perfume. I love that women.

also she had never had a car that was fun to own in her life, all depressing little boxes. She came around when I got her a JCW Cooper for her birthday.

Cars are fine as long as I don't blow rent money on it. Partly because I'm her personal mechanic. Now motorcycles on the other hand, she hates. Mostly on grounds of safety. But she knows she will lose on the me or it ultimatum.

My wife may not get it, but suppirts me. As long as im not impacting the family, home for dinner most of the time, and her house doesn't look like Sanford and son.

She's encouraged me to go racing, told me to take the duster to a pro, and threatened castration when i had 9 cars in the driveway with nothing to drive.

Shes a damn good woman who coulda married a far sight better than she did.

Only ever outright banned me from dirt track and motorcycles, purely on safety.