Don't fuss about car setup your first time. It's a Miata, so it won't do anything weird. The limiting factor is going to be the loose nut behind the steering wheel.
For helmets, most events will let you use a Snell SA or M (motorcycle) rated helmet from the past 2-3 certification periods. The only real difference is that M helmets do not have flame retardant lining. You should easily be able to find a new M2005 for less than $100. Do not buy used.
Despite the "how much is your head worth" arguments, any Snell helmet meeting the same rating requirements will protect you the same in a crash. More money does not really buy more safety, it buys more features/comfort from things like lighter materials, fancy vents, and fitment padding.
I would get the car pre-teched at a local shop just so that you have less to worry about on the actual day of your event.