A big thanks to you all.

Well everyone I just wanted to take a moment and say my thanks to you all that gave me some good advice about 4 months back or so. It was that whole "What would you do" thread that seemed to take on quite the life of its own there for awhile.

A short recap, I had fallen for a girl that was basically bad news, let her know my feelings and it went south fast. Got some great advice from some of you folks on here and got on with things. Funny thing is here I had gotten so focused on this girl that is wrong that I was completely over looking the one that was right. During the whole ordeal with this my friend Tiffany had been there for me and trying to make me feel better. We had been friends since I had moved out this way and had gotten really close. She was falling for me and I completely missed it. Then one day after all of this happened I saw it and asked her out.

We have now been together for a little over 2 months and we have been extremely happy. She is helping me with the Olds and as I mentioned in another thread she works on her families cars. She likes to go camping, plays paint ball and video games. She loves trying new things and was upset that she was going to miss me making sushi tonight (she has never had it) because her family is going on a camping trip. Oh she also plays guitar.

You guys basically told me to keep my eyes open and I did and I got very lucky. Thank you all.

sounds like a keeper! congrats

Nice to hear about a happy ending, so to speak.

aussiesmg wrote: Nice to hear about a happy ending, so to speak.

There was no mention of PIITB...

...yet.

Congrats! Sounds like things are working out well. Glad to hear it turned out like that.

Osterkraut wrote:

aussiesmg wrote: Nice to hear about a happy ending, so to speak.

There was no mention of PIITB...

a gentleman never tells

You missed the part where he said "she likes to try new things".

I'm tellin ya man, if you dig a girl, you can't wait around. I think we get so occupied with "messing up something good" that we completely miss the other good options we have elsewhere. I've had so many females friends over the years and I realize that as I get old I can't do that anymore. They've either got to be interested or not, and if their not, I'm not.

Right around the same time your dilemma was happening I was in midst of an eminent breakup. The relationship wasn't horrible, but it wasn't good either, and we were both completely blank about our future. The road was fading quickly.

Having a community of real people whom I know are good people, and although the PITB thing got a bit overzealous, I got a lot of encouragement about the situation.

In the end, I looked at the friends I've got and remembered the good times I had with them and how the relationship was bringing me down in both friendships and college.

The breakup was surprisingly easy. We were both mature and realistic about it, we are still on great terms, but I think we will gradually move apart as our lives change without each other. No hard feelings, no dirty rumors. We broke up before we did anything stupid.

Now here I am, enjoying the single life, spending more time with a girl who actually loves doing the same things as me, and extremely confident in my ability to hold off on a relationship until I'm ready to settle down. Until then, party on!

I'm glad that this all worked out for you.

But still keep your eyes open

One thing I noticed is that when you show your affection to a girl whom you may have thought was not into you, suddenly she may be more into you than you had originally thought.

Another reason to separate friends from "more than friends" early on, because that super awesome girl you were hanging out and didn't think you had a chance with might have been turned off by the fact that you never did anything about her obvious attraction.

It took liquid confidence and a "here goes" approach for me to break that barrier with a friend of mine, and although we're not going to rush into a relationship, it established a general consensus on how we felt about each other.

Thanks again guys she is a keeper. She made a great friend and things have just gotten better. Heck she even puts up with my family and my dogs, both get on my nerves from time to time.

Funny thing is the last time I was with someone that had this much in common with is the only ex that I still really talk to and we broke up 4 years ago. She was another car freak and would drool over a proper muscle car.

Anyway the fun and excitement of dating

thatsnowinnebago wrote:

Osterkraut wrote:

aussiesmg wrote: Nice to hear about a happy ending, so to speak.

There was no mention of PIITB...

a gentleman never tells

since when has there been a "gentleman" on this site

neon4891 wrote: Since when has there been a "gentleman" on this site

There's actually quite a few, but I don't want to point them out and make them feel all weird.

EastCoastMojo wrote:

neon4891 wrote: Since when has there been a "gentleman" on this site

There's actually quite a few, but I don't want to point them out and make them feel all weird.

I appreciate that.Really.

please note the above was intended with sarchasom

I can't believe no one has said this, but Pics or it didn't happen

This is her, we were out messing around with some of the cameras (she is into photography as well) and was not happy that I kept sneaking shots of her.

When we are working on the Olds I will have to keep my camera on hand to try and get a shot of her working under the hood.

neon4891 wrote: please note the above was intended with sarchasom

I'm a big fan of sarchasom, or sarcasm...either one.

EastCoastMojo wrote:

neon4891 wrote: Since when has there been a "gentleman" on this site

There's actually quite a few, but I don't want to point them out and make them feel all weird.

It's cool, you can point it out.

Joey

JFX001 wrote:

neon4891 wrote: please note the above was intended with sarchasom

I'm a big fan of sarchasom, or sarcasm...either one.

one day I will learn to spell, just not today

Now pics of you for us to determine how lucky you really are lol.

wherethefmi wrote: Now pics of you for us to determine how lucky you really are lol.

I'm 29 6'1" and over weight (was a computer tech for the last 8 years) so I avoid getting my picture taken like the plague. She on the other hand is 19 about 5'2" and maybe 100 lbs soaking wet lol. I really need to kick my butt back into shape.

Chicks, man.

rebelgtp wrote: I'm 29 6'1" and over weight (was a computer tech for the last 8 years) so I avoid getting my picture taken like the plague. She on the other hand is 19 about 5'2" and maybe 100 lbs soaking wet lol. I really need to kick my butt back into shape.

Hmm... that's a potentially frustrating age gap. I'm only 27, and don't think I'd have the patience to date someone 19.

At least that's good motivation to get into shape! I can suggest at least one great activity that will get you a bit of exercise.