Fueled by Caffeine
Fueled by Caffeine MegaDork
1/10/23 7:47 a.m.

A coworker's young kid is battling cancer.  mid single digit years old.  It went from "my kid isn't feeling well" to children's hospital and many emergency surgeries. They learn about on going treatment soon and prognosis. 
 

Spoke with my coworker last night.  They're getting ready to bury their kid. (Edit: they don't know if they will, but they're prepping for it just to be clear) Totally different person.  No longer the confident career charger. 
 

put your time and money into the things that matter.  

84FSP
84FSP UberDork
1/10/23 7:49 a.m.

Ugh - I just can't even imagine.  Good call on what's important.

 

Duke
Duke MegaDork
1/10/23 7:59 a.m.

That's a real shame. I wish the best of luck and medical science for the child.

 

Slippery
Slippery GRM+ Memberand PowerDork
1/10/23 8:35 a.m.

This sucks. My neighbor's daughter just got diagnosed with cancer and on her second chemo treatment. She is 17, too young for this crap. 

stroker
stroker PowerDork
1/10/23 10:07 a.m.

I don't think I can think of anything worse than your kid having a life-threatening illness.  Prayers to your co-worker and their family.

Colin Wood
Colin Wood Associate Editor
1/10/23 10:20 a.m.

My heart goes out to them. My wife and I just dropped our two-year off for her first day of daycare.

Our little girl is getting lots of hugs tonight.

DeadSkunk  (Warren)
DeadSkunk (Warren) UltimaDork
1/10/23 10:35 a.m.

My parents lost a four month old in 1961. When my sister informed them of my life threatening state last March Mom's first words were " I don't want to have to bury another child". The pain never goes away. I feel for the family and hope the child is cured.

dculberson
dculberson MegaDork
1/10/23 10:55 a.m.

Man, what a difficult task they have ahead. I hope the best for them and their child.

Thanks for the post; I had a hard time getting the 5 year old ready for school and it sent me into a bit of a tail spin. It's always important to keep perspective.

Toyman!
Toyman! GRM+ Memberand MegaDork
1/10/23 10:58 a.m.

I can't even imagine going through that. That would be doubly hard with such a youngster. My thoughts and prayers go out to them. 

I still hug my kids regularly and the youngest is 19. For that fact, I still hug my parents and siblings regularly and I'm 55. You never know the hand life will deal you. 

mtn
mtn MegaDork
1/10/23 11:20 a.m.

Unfortunately, I can relate with your coworker. My sincerest condolences. I'm giving up writing the rest of this post, because it has taken me 5 minutes of writing and deleting the next part. I'm so sorry for your friend and his family. 

 

Fueled by Caffeine
Fueled by Caffeine MegaDork
1/10/23 11:49 a.m.

In reply to mtn :

We are all So sorry for what you went through.  Its terrible. 
 

I live across the street from a make a wish kid.  His story has a happier ending but the journey was horrendous.  
 

put your money and time where it's most important. That's all I got. 

Datsun310Guy
Datsun310Guy MegaDork
1/10/23 11:59 a.m.

My sister lost a 15 month year old son - it was awful.  

I feel bad for your friend.  Make sure he finds the right support groups.

My sister never sought professional help or any support groups and it took her down an alcohol/drug path that ended her life way too soon.  Her husband too.  

mtn
mtn MegaDork
1/10/23 2:52 p.m.

I'm currently sitting in my bed, working, listening to my almost-3 year old who is home sick, again, with a fever in her crib. She does not want to be in her crib. She wants to be playing with me. She keeps saying "oh daddy, come get me!" over and over and it is breaking my heart because I really, really want to do that more than anything. 

But kiddo needs a nap, no matter how much she assures me otherwise I know she's tired. I'm giving her only 2 minutes more before I grab her in a big bear hug and say "Eff it"

Fueled by Caffeine
Fueled by Caffeine MegaDork
1/10/23 6:14 p.m.

In reply to mtn :

That's the good stuff man. 

Appleseed
Appleseed MegaDork
1/10/23 7:09 p.m.

In reply to mtn :

I feel that. I'm trying real hard to reduce any "I wished I would have..." with the hellspawn. You get one shot. Make it count.

karplus2
karplus2 GRM+ Memberand Reader
1/12/23 8:54 a.m.

I had cancer when I was 13. It was rough but I already had the teenage 'nothing can kill me mentality' so I managed treatment and got through it. The worst part was seeing the younger kids suffering. 

It took having kids of my own to realize how traumatic it had to have been for my parents. They always put on a brave face but they had to have been freaking out.

I hope for the best for your coworker and their child. 

dculberson
dculberson MegaDork
1/12/23 9:13 a.m.

My oldest brother had cancer when he was a young teen. My parents still aren't over that, and it's almost 50 years later. Not that they get all weepy about it, but it comes up from time to time. My brother recovered and is still doing well.

Fueled by Caffeine
Fueled by Caffeine MegaDork
1/12/23 9:39 a.m.

Seems like they have prognosis and a treatment plan. Things are better than last week.  

mtn
mtn MegaDork
1/12/23 1:09 p.m.
Fueled by Caffeine said:

Seems like they have prognosis and a treatment plan. Things are better than last week.  

I am really glad to hear this.

My daughter has been sick this week, and because of that, I have been hugging her a lot - thinking of this post specifically. It helps that she wants to be held quite a bit. 

hybridmomentspass
hybridmomentspass Dork
1/12/23 6:41 p.m.

Last Friday night there was a car accident near the school I teach at.

One car went left of center, striking anoher head on.

Killed a mother, her 6 and 12/13 year old.

My heart aches for the father/husband. His whole world was just ripped from him.

 

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