I think I'm becoming a curmudgeon.

Um, no. Pills are NOT the fix. That's what is wrong with this country now, everything needs an instant fix, nobody wants to face life's problems head on any more. That's also what went horribly wrong with my ex.

There's nothing wrong with getting irritated at people who act like shiny happy people. Just remember, when you do something shiny happy persony THEY will be mad at YOU.

Remember your friends. Most people can count their TRUE friends on the fingers of one hand.

And GTFO my lawn, dammit.

An instant fix and it is ALWAYS someone elses fault. We just need to get rid of all these someone else people and life will be perfect.

Retail did the same to me in my early 20's 52 now and never did quite get over it.

I hated the world when I was 24-25, also. I grew out of it a couple years later. Life is too short to be pissed off all the time. Smile.

I thought it was just from getting old.

I'm more inclined to be the "Oh well or let it be " guy.

Annoyed with dumba$$es is not anything close to depression.

My disgust for the general public started in my late 20s. I am now to the point where I just want to move away from any big city. I contribute alot of this to several years of commuting in terrible traffic and long lines at grocery stores.

LOL @ the suggestion for medication. What the berkeley?

It's not depression, and I'm not pissed off at the world either, I simply just do not like most people that I meet or come in contact with in one way or another.

Expect the worst from people, and they will rarely let you down.

If you find yourself hating people, it may be because you have expectations of them (even strangers) that they are not "living up to". This is easy to fix, don't expect anything from anybody. They are not you, and they have no idea how to be the stranger you want them to be.

If you are not happy at the parts store, then sit down and plan out where you want to be. If you don't know where you want to be, that may be the root of your anger. Invest in yourself, it's the only investment with a guaranteed return. Even if that investment is just time to yourself, or exercise, or night classes, whatever you can do to stay focused on your goals. Sometimes we get the most frustrated when we are just treading water. At least when we are drowning we are distracted from where haven't gotten in life yet. Take a deep breath, focus, and move forward.

And get the berkeley off my lawn.

BoostedBrandon wrote: In reply to fast_eddie_72 See that sorta makes since, being as I'll be 25 here in a few months. I think this was really set in motion last week when I saw an old classmate come in the store. You've all been there, they're boasting about their job and success and it reminds you of what you've accomplished. In some ways, the lack of what you've accomplished. I've been graduated for 6 years now, and he was talking about how he had been on the golf course all day. I said "Yeah, hate that you have to work so hard" just kidding around and all, and he replies with "Yeah, I got ten weeks of vacation, I gotta do something with it." I had to sit and think. What the hell kind of job gives you ten weeks of vacation? Then he tells me he's teaching at the high school, US History. Always my favorite subject. Here I am working at a parts store. Then I'm reminded that I'm not in near as much debt as he is, and then I feel much better.

Yep. I think the problem is being in your mid to late 20's. You feel like... "You're not a kid anymore. You're supposed to be set on a solid career path to make something good of yourself. You're supposed to know what exactly you want to do and have a plan on how you're going to do it. Look at all these other people about your same age who have accomplished so much already and are nice and stable. What's wrong with you?" That's how it was (and still sometimes is) for me.

That E36 M3 is going to stress you the berkeley out. It's just not realistic for most people at that age. It's like life is a race and you're supposed to be ahead of everyone else on your way to the goal... but you don't even know where that goal is, let alone the path to get to it.

Do you have a girlfriend you love a lot too? I know that was double stress for me because I was not successful and stable enough that I would feel comfortable getting married. Compounded with her not being able to understand why it was so hard for me to get a good job, because she graduated college when job opportunities were WAY better.

It's totally normal to not know what you want to do when you're 25. I didn't figure that out for myself until I was almost 30. Even then, I feel super fortunate for having been able to figure it out at all.

Do you have enough money for housing, food, independence, and friends who care about you that you can share those things with? Are you stable enough that you don't worry those things will go away? If so, then you're doing pretty well. Enjoy where you're at rather than worrying about where you're not.

CARmudgeon?

I don't hate people but I do find that everyone annoy's me.

I think dislike of the public is directly related, in most cases, to how long you worked in retail, restaurants/fast food, etc. I really hated the public until I had worked at my "real job" for a few years. It really started when we had a string of women trying to get cash refunds on baby formula purchased with WIC vouchers. People would also try the same shenanigans with food stamp cards.

I still get very irritated sometimes, but I blame that on the deployment. Sometimes I just have to take a moment and think about how these people don't realize how they're acting. The fact that they aren't aware that they're being douchenozzles is a big part of the problem, but it's nothing that I should let bother me.

Medication for most emotional problems (depression) is simply a bandaid. It's there to help you until you're able to deal with the problem on your own. Otherwise, you get to go through life as a zombie; you don't feel bad, most of the time, but you never really feel happy, either.

rotard wrote: Medication for most emotional problems (depression) is simply a bandaid. It's there to help you until you're able to deal with the problem on your own. Otherwise, you get to go through life as a zombie; you don't feel bad, most of the time, but you never really feel happy, either.

Yep, I don't want medication. I don't want to become a face eating zombie.

I like being around my friends and stuff like that, I just hate being at big events, unless its racing or pro-football. I just do not like being around the general public at all. It may have something to do with the years of retail and the years of working in a bar, I would much rather be around a few people I like than around a couple hundred people that seem inconsiderate and ignorant.

Another thing the OP mentioned is having a garage. Man-o-man would that be therapeutic. I would love to be able to go work on a project in the garage a 1am when I can't sleep. Not having a place to work on my vehicles is another reason I want to move far, far away from the city. Previously it was due to not having a job that would allow me to do it. I may have stumbled into a career that will let me work remotely.

I am just glad I am not the only suffering bastard on this site.

Anti-stance wrote: My disgust for the general public started in my late 20s. I am now to the point where I just want to move away from any big city. I contribute alot of this to several years of commuting in terrible traffic and long lines at grocery stores.

Yeah it really hit me in my early/mid 20s. The way people drive and act in public just boggles my mind.

I can't wait to retire and move somewhere.

There are times when doing something like this would be very therapeutic.

Yep, people are stupid and we have to put up with them. Sounds about right to me. Dealing with crowds of them is a nightmare. Everything sucks anymore.

Anytime the wife and I have to travel back to....more developed areas where we used to live, we always leave going on and on about how glad we are to not have to deal with that clusterberkeley anymore.

We may have to drive an hour to see any close friends and family, and shopping for almost anything is at least 45 mins-1 hour round trip, we put a lot of miles and gas in our cars commuting, and we may not have high speed internet at our house out in the sticks, but it sure is quiet and peaceful out there. And there's a garage. Its like a comforting disconnect from the rest of the world, every day. I love it.

Grizz wrote: There are times when doing something like this would be very therapeutic.

I can watch this over and over and over again, each time smiling

Ah, Springtime! The trees are in bloom, flowers everywhere, birds chirping and bees buzzing. Earth has shed her drab winter clothing and decked herself out in colorful finery. Every day is a new beginning and I find myself full of optimism and goodwill toward my fellow man.

So all you grouchy Berkeleyers get over it already!

This and the "Ig-nant" people thread go hand in hand......

In reply to Cone_Junky:

Isn't it great?

The sentiment throughout this thread reminds me of this graffiti'd sign, which always makes me laugh :

I think a certain amount of cynicism and disdain for society is healthy, so long as you don't let it eat away at you.

Also,

Salanis wrote: Yep. I think the problem is being in your mid to late 20's. You feel like... "You're not a kid anymore. You're supposed to be set on a solid career path to make something good of yourself. You're supposed to know what exactly you want to do and have a plan on how you're going to do it. Look at all these other people about your same age who have accomplished so much already and are nice and stable. What's wrong with you?" That's how it was (and still sometimes is) for me...Enjoy where you're at rather than worrying about where you're not.

This simple quote, helped put ^^that^^ in perspective for me: "Someone else's success is not your failure."

BoostedBrandon wrote: I think retail has ruined me for life.

This. I work at some sort of "club." We just did a computer "training" video. Said something to the effect that all threats coming from other employees should be taken seriously.

If that were true, we'd have the FBI, NSA, CIA, state and local police in the Meat dept. 4 times a day.

Hell, the other day I said to several people, " man if I could just get my hands on a low yield tactical nuke..."

A person an be cool, but I berkeleying hate people.

I blame my rage on video games , but revenge is best served cold .