Wally said:
For the 20+ years I’ve known my mother in law there’s always been a bowl with candy, usually M&Ms, in the living room. I’ve been staying here alone the past few days since she’s in Florida and the wife’s surgery was done up here and when I got in last night there were no more M&Ms. I don’t think I’ve ever seen the bowl empty before. This morning I stopped at Walmart and bought a few big bags so this doesn’t happen again.
Story time, and it is one of my favorites.
My dad is from Chicago, my mom is from Southern Indiana/Northern Kentucky--think the John Prine song Paradise. They met when they were both living in Louisville; they moved to St. Louis when they got married, and moved to Chicago when they had kids. While my dad was from Chicago and had friends and family, my mom didn't know anyone in Chicago outside of dads family, and her Aunt Ethel. Ethel was from western Kentucky, grew up on a tobacco farm. She went to college, joined the public health service, then got her masters, and eventually moved with the PHS to Chicago where she rose to the rank of Captain. She never married, never had kids. Mom and Ethel were the only people in the family within a 5 hour drive of each other (they were about 30 minutes apart). Ethel had always been important in my moms life--when my grandad died, mom was only 6, and Ethel stayed with them as long as she could. When my uncle died, mom was only 12, and Ethel again took all of her vacation and stayed with the family.
Well, Dad didn't really know Ethel. But they moved to Chicago--mom was probably 7 or 8 months pregnant with my older brother, and Ethel soon became probably the most important woman in our lives outside of Mom. When they needed a babysitter, it was Ethel. When my great grandma died, Ethel took us for the weekend and bought us toy guns and let us drive her 92 Roadmaster or 87 Toronado (we were no more than 4 years old). When dad was out of town on business, and mom was pregnant with our younger brother and sick with the flu at 7AM, Ethel was in her bedroom in her uniform and called her boss "I won't be coming in today" *click*, while mom rested she took my brother and I - 2 and 4 - to McDonalds and to the playground.
She once took my brother to a family reunion in Kentucky. She got pulled over no less than 3 times on the drive. Once she handed the officer her license, and said "Oh wait, that is the wrong one". She had kept active licenses in 3 states, just to keep her out of ticket trouble. Good thing the cops didn't have SCMODS. After she wrecked her Roadmaster, she complained that her Park Avenue that replaced it didn't have enough power, and she didn't like FWD.
Well, Anyways, we went through a lot with Ethel. She would have done anything for us. She was my favorite person in the world. It went from her taking us places, to us helping her move into assisted living. I took her to her last family reunion, then her brothers funeral. Somewhat poetic, the fact that she used to take us on trips, and in the end we had to take her. She passed in 2014 at 89. Dad, her nephew-in-law, gave the eulogy. He told his favorite story of Aunt Ethel. My parents came to get my older brother, he was probably 3 or 4, after he had stayed the night with Ethel. My parents come to the door, and my brother excitedly grabs my dads hand and leads him to her living room to show him the candy bowl on the coffee table. He tells dad, with all the excitement of a little boy, "And Dad, the best part is, its ALWAYS FULL". I still tear up thinking about my dads words in that church in Kentucky: "Ethel, may your dish always be full".
And I wish that for everyone on this site as well--may your dish always be full.