In reply to Appleseed :
Dude. I think someone hates me here (at least one someone). Because most of my posts that happen to get an upvote - even inconsequential things, like you say - later go back down.
In reply to Appleseed :
Dude. I think someone hates me here (at least one someone). Because most of my posts that happen to get an upvote - even inconsequential things, like you say - later go back down.
In reply to wearymicrobe :
My F-I-L watches that channel 6-8 hours a day and he too calls and wants to continue on the conversation. I just don't want to discuss it over and over.
Appleseed said:I'll admit it. I do enjoy getting upvotes. It's a little chest puffer moment to see that someone digs my stupid E36 M3 enough to say they like it. So its baffling to see something downvoted. Because its usually the dumbest, inconsequential thing that gets it. I'm stunned someone hates Prince/ loves Rihanna enough to downvote a meme. Weird.
It's taking all my strength not to downvote this...
I get it. Women have body image issues.
Why is it, that the woman I've been with since we were teenagers, who I'm still crazy about. Still thinks that I'm an idiot because I still like seeing her naked?
Women worry that men are going to leave them for a younger woman but they get annoyed with the man who doesn't want to leave them for wanting to see her without any clothes on?
In reply to Duke :
I've noticed it too.
I only use the downvote if someone's ass is out a country mile and I've been using it a lot less since Frenchy left.
Dusterbd13-michael said:I do believe I will never be going back to a Golden Corral. That was quite possibly the most regrettable decision I've made in a long time concerning food and I have made some horrific decisions
Golden Corral is a terrible place to go for food, but a great place for entertainment. Get a table by the chocolate fountain and watch all the things kids will stick in there unsupervised.
Dusterbd13-michael said:...quite possibly the most regrettable decision I've made in a long time concerning food and I have made some horrific decisions
Golden Corral's new slogan.
I am a lifelong West Coast resident who has never even seen a Golden Corral, much less eaten at one, but their reputation precedes them.
Once again, cancer sucks. Damn it. Probably posted about this person before, but 20 years after the initial scare, cancer. Sad.
Duke said:In reply to Appleseed :
Dude. I think someone hates me here (at least one someone). Because most of my posts that happen to get an upvote - even inconsequential things, like you say - later go back down.
lol, I could post something completely innocuous and I know it gets downvoted by 2 no matter what. I'm pretty sure I know the 2 and think it's funny.
Appleseed said:I'll admit it. I do enjoy getting upvotes. It's a little chest puffer moment to see that someone digs my stupid E36 M3 enough to say they like it. So its baffling to see something downvoted. Because its usually the dumbest, inconsequential thing that gets it. I'm stunned someone hates Prince/ loves Rihanna enough to downvote a meme. Weird.
That is an odd one. I mean, I've seen that meme a couple times here, but not enough to downvote it.
I will confess to making a habit of downvoting memes or other posts that are just lazy sexism. As much because they're lazy as because they're sexist.
My litmus is often: I think amateur motorsports is awesome and should be for everyone, and this forum represents the best of that. If I show a post to a friend, are they going to think it's just for straight white hetero dudes? Or that this community wants them to be part of the best hobby in the world too?
ShawnG said:I get it. Women have body image issues.
Why is it, that the woman I've been with since we were teenagers, who I'm still crazy about. Still thinks that I'm an idiot because I still like seeing her naked?
Women worry that men are going to leave them for a younger woman but they get annoyed with the man who doesn't want to leave them for wanting to see her without any clothes on?
Okay - major win for me, and at risk of feeling like I'm bragging... my wife has gotten a LOT better about this over the past year or two. She and I both have our insecurities and body issues, but it's gotten better for both of us. She used to be much more insecure that I was going to "trade her in for a younger model".
Trying to analyze the big changes:
I think the big one is that we've really established that our relationship is voluntary. If I didn't want to be with her, I wouldn't be. If she didn't want to be with me, I wouldn't want her to be. We don't *have* to stay together, we *want* to stay together.
I put my foot down about no jokes about me leaving her. They aren't funny. I'm frankly offended that she would think so little of me that I'd consider that.
She lost weight and started lifting weights. Both have been good, but I think the lifting has been better. Being able to lift >100lbs overhead, pick up >200lbs off the floor, and do multiple pullups... having concrete proof of how capable her body is makes her like it more. We also have a great trainer, and it's helped her a lot for him to tell her, "If your goal is to lift heavier, gaining 5 pounds will actually help that."
Getting a little personal... we've also made a point of treating our sex life as a fun hobby that we explore together. That's really helped us both see how much the other person sees us as attractive. Helps us see ourselves that way too.
Turns out I already had the wrench I bought yesterday. Oh well, it was with gift card money.
Peabody said:In reply to Dusterbd13-michael :
We used to see their commercials all the time on one of the American TV stations we watched, and wonder just how bad it would be for that price. And if I recall, didn't they also throw in a bag of food to take home, too?
This sort of came out wrong. What I meant was, look how cheap it is, how bad could it be, we'll find something to eat. I tried to convince PW that we should go some time, just to see, it'll be an adventure, but she wouldn't do it.
DarkMonohue said:Dusterbd13-michael said:...quite possibly the most regrettable decision I've made in a long time concerning food and I have made some horrific decisions
Golden Corral's new slogan.
I am a lifelong West Coast resident who has never even seen a Golden Corral, much less eaten at one, but their reputation precedes them.
I went to one once, I don't mind a good buffet but I rarely go
It was ....ok but there was a table of people , several people a piece overweight, that literally cleared out every tray of any meat as it came out. Like....." got the meat sweats" level.
It was noted as being the very first Tesla Supercharger location in the small North Idaho town too, weird combo really.
ShawnG said:I get it. Women have body image issues.
Why is it, that the woman I've been with since we were teenagers, who I'm still crazy about. Still thinks that I'm an idiot because I still like seeing her naked?
Please don’t take this personally. Your wife is likely responding to generations’ worth of public disgust at women’s aging bodies. It’s really, really hard to get out from under that. It’s also possible that being with the same person for decades (I’m guessing) has made her even more self-conscious because she knows you remember what she used to look like, compared to now. (“I used to be such a little pixie and now I am FAT and gravity has taken its toll in all the wrong places.”) She is also probably getting bombarded with ads for the most ridiculous anti-aging potions known to humankind. People who want to make money are very good at inventing new things for aging women to be insecure about (and they are now cottoning on to the fact that aging men are also a gold mine, so watch out for yourself, too).
Instagram gets a bad rap regarding women and body image issues, unfortunately for good reason much of the time, but there is also a lot of body positivity content aimed at older women and women who have had children. Don’t know your situation, but many women find themselves unprepared for and disheartened by the way their bodies change (often permanently) after pregnancy and childbirth, which we don’t talk about. Instagram has become a a venue for women to be like hey, stretch marks are normal, this is what normal aging looks like, resist the stigma and don’t be ashamed, your body is YOU and can do amazing things. Encouragement and expressing appreciation can never go wrong here, and just understanding how she could be feeling might help you.
Best of luck.
In reply to Steve_Jones :
Yup. Just happened in the Jeep lug bolt thread.
Made a stupid joke, was up to 4, now down to 2.
The butthurt is strong on here.
In reply to RBCA :
I tell her she's beautiful and I love her every day.
I get an eye roll a lot of times.
Probably doesn't help that her mother (who is no peach) was on her case since she was a little girl.
In reply to Beer Baron :
Awesome on that weight lifting when a transmission needs to be moved.....
I hate migraines and how it makes me feel, not just pain but.....fizzily unfocused
ShawnG said:In reply to RBCA :
I tell her she's beautiful and I love her every day.
Trying to be constructive here, but...
Maybe this is part of the problem? The more you repeat something, the less impact it has. If you say the exact same thing every day, it turns into hollow background noise. You'll get more traction the more unique and specific ways you have to express your sentiments.
Try telling her that you *desire* her because she's hot. She's beautiful? You love her? BFD. My cat is beautiful and I love her. But I uniquely *desire* my wife.
Now get specific with it. Tell her specifically what it is that makes her hot and how that desire makes you feel.
Better yet, SHOW her you desire her. Express yourself physically. Check out how hot she is, go up, pull her to you, kiss her neck. Then pull away and tell her something like, "You excite me so much, I felt compelled to do that." Do NOT use this to try to initiate sex. You are not expressing that you're horny and looking for an orgasm. You're expressing that you think she's hot, desire her, and want to feel her body against yours.
Leave her space for her imagination to fill in the details. Do this before you and/or she leave for work. Leave it hanging their for her to think about for the day. Text her in the middle of the day with a little message like, "I was thinking about our kiss this morning. It's had me in a good mood all day. I'm looking forward to coming home to you."
Boom. Desire.
She knows you love her. She's not insecure about that. As she ages, it's harder to feel as hot and desirable.
This morning (2/19) the computer prompts me to make a new password. I make the new password. The new password does not work. I call IT and wait 45 minutes. When I finally get a person I am told that can be taken care of. The tech remotes in and fixes the problem. When I ask what I did wrong I am told "you did nothing wrong, sometimes it just does that".
Welcome to monday. Small m intentional.
I had an emailed agreement to hand you money for your riding mower. Then you write to say you sold it to someone else. Just, please, for the rest of your life, be a better human to the other people you interact with. Today was going to be a fun road trip with my sons and the mower looked awesome. Now I'm back to needing a mower and bored kids on President's day.
Dear USPS,
I know you bunch of useless government drudges don't care about doing a decent job at anything. You never have, you never will. I'm reasonably certain that the first question on the USPS employment app asks is, do you suck at life. Anyone who answers no is immediately rejected. So I shouldn't be surprised when you do stupid E36 M3 like this. The box sitting by the front door of my office contains a winch mount for a Hummer HT3. It was fairly expensive at $500. Yet your dumbass employee just dropped it there sometime Saturday, in one of the highest crime areas in the city. There it sat for 2 days until we opened this morning. You stupid berkeleys do know the difference between a business and a residence, don't you? What works in a neighborhood doesn't work in a business complex that is berkeleying empty from 5 pm Friday until 7 am Monday. I have to wonder, does the federal government remove your brains when you sign the dotted line or were you born this way?
It's not even about the money. It's about the complete pain in the ass your employees are when it comes to filing for a stolen package. Your people have no work ethic, and no interest in doing what they are paid to do. Management won't fire the useless and everyone on the staff knows it. They have no reason to do a decent job. The complaint I filed this morning will end up in the round file and accomplish nothing.
Effective immediately, any business that solely ships USPS will be removed from my supplier list. I've already stopped mailing checks to most suppliers using your service due to your inability to even do that correctly. My company will be setting up an online payment portal and will no longer accept mailed-in checks. I will stop doing business with you in every possible fashion.
I look forward to your long spiral into the depths of useless government services.
To all politicians, if you run on a platform of disbanding the USPS, I'll vote for you. I don't care if you are a Democrat, Republican, or the Orange man from hell, you'll get my vote. It's time to kick those useless berkeleys to the unemployment line, where they belong.
Duke said:In reply to Appleseed :
Dude. I think someone hates me here (at least one someone). Because most of my posts that happen to get an upvote - even inconsequential things, like you say - later go back down.
For what it's worth most of the voting that I do is entirely accidental. When I scroll on my Android tablet I'm often hitting the vote buttons.
In reply to Toyman! :
Can't agree more.
We recently sent a letter to my wife's mother with a check to help with some medical expenses. Given the circumstances, we sent it registered mail, on Jan 29th. It still hasn't arrived in PA from AZ. It did finally make it into PA yesterday, but has spent most of it's very slow progress "in transit" according to USPS "tracking". We've already stopped payment on the check, and wire transferred the funds, which cost us an additional $50 at our bank. And this is not the only issue we've had with USPS in 2024.
It seems the only thing USPS is able to do reliably is deliver junk mail.
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