They say that when someone tells you who they are, you should believe them. I've been with my current employer for almost 23 years. In that time, I've done a lot of different things and have made sacrifices over the years to "take one for the team" with the expectation that some day my loyalty and dedication would be rewarded. A number of years ago, my boss was RIFed and not only did I get a new boss, but all of my direct reports were re-assigned to that same new boss. Without anyone having the common courtesy to at least tell me about it - I found out when the org chart just changed one day. I should have believed them at that point.
At the same time, there was an opportunity to move into a different area of the company so I took that because it was a kind of cool challenge. I was told that I'd keep my title, salary, and bonus plan. Three weeks in, I was dragged into a meeting with my new boss's boss who told me that there was no way he could pay me that much and he whacked my bonus plan. I should have believed them at that point.
I got passed around a little bit since no one really knew what to do with me and they kept firing my bosses, and finally settled into the group I'm in now. When it started out, my manager was very enthusiastic and supportive when I told him that I loved my job but felt like I could take on more responsibility and wanted to continue my career path. I was told on more than one occasion that we were just waiting on the right opportunity into which to promote me. After about 18 months of that lip service, the tone changed to that I was doing great, but the company isn't very good at promoting career development. I should have believed them at that point.
Last year, I told my boss that I had pretty much given up and that apparently there was absolutely no one in the company that was interested in furthering my career or at least telling me what I could be doing or not doing to make myself a candidate for a promotion of any sort and that maybe it was time for me to start looking elsewhere. His response was that he was sorry, there was nothing he could do, he was frustrated as well, and that I was probably right. I should have believed them at that point.
Just a couple months ago, the job that would have been the perfect promotion for me - essentially replacing the part of my boss's job that involves managing myself and my peers on the team - was created and given to one of my peers without that job having been posted or giving anyone an opportunity to compete for it. I finally believe them.
I was making some phone calls and doing some networking yesterday and in a conversation I had with a former manager of mine I said something that I think really sums it all up: I love my job, I just don't want to do it at this company anymore. I'm tired of always being the one that has to be mature and do the right thing and accept whatever E36 M3 sandwich is foisted upon me. Taking one for the team doesn't bother me - I get that each employee can't always get what they want and that we're all operating as part of a whole. But eventually the team needs to give one back.
Anybody need a slightly used technical sales engineer who would also make a fantastic Director of IT for a mid-size enterprise?