Random thoughts thread

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

I hope she is too, the silence is painful 

And, I feel for ya on the bad times. I can’t imagine having to deal with all your are, but I do understand being overwhelmed. 

Not really anything I, or the rest of us, could say that you’re not already working on... sounds like you’re dealing with it all fairly well, considering. 

There will be good days and bad, but as someone said, no one can tell you how you grieve. And any body that don’t like it, can stuff it!!!

Wally (Forum Supporter) said:

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

I hope she is too, the silence is painful 

Perhaps when you do have a chance to talk to her, you can find out if anyone in her family is willing to run a caringbridge.

That lets a family member (whoever is updating the site) provide info without having to talk to everyone individually. It can even be password protected. It is like a facebook group that is only connected for a single topic.  There may be several people hoping for updates on your friend.

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

If I hear from her again I'm bringing that up because this has been rough. Because we're just internet friends I have no contact to reach out to. Because I always go to the darkest possible place lately I've been checking local funeral home listings. It was a fun night.  

Wally, I hope you hear good news, soon. That sounds very rough.

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

Thank You 

Still no word. I think she's ok but it's still very frustrating. 

Wally (Forum Supporter) said:

Still no word. I think she's ok but it's still very frustrating. 

Still praying for both of you

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

Thank you me too. 

Wally,

I'm kind of late to the discussion, but I've been following and keeping you in  my thoughts and prayers. It may sound counter intuitive, but I've found not fighting the down times and bad feelings can help. Wallow in it for a while and if you're like me it won't take long until you are bouncing back up. My sense is that you are basically a positive person and may expect too much of yourself at times. It is OK to feel down and overwhelmed with things now, but they will change and improve with time. Quoting from the Desiderata "Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the  trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not iti is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be. 

In the meantime, I'm sending positive thoughts and energy your way.

In reply to Don49 (Forum Supporter) :

This was the first day in a long time that I just wallowed. I went for a walk in the morning but when I came home I sat under a blanket watching tv and eating ice cream the rest of the day feeling sorry for myself and hoping today would be the day she was up to talking.  I know I should have expected it would happen but I'm disappointed in how down I've become in the last two weeks. 

Don't beat yourself up about having a down swing, it's only temporary. It's also normal and reasonable. Remember you will climb out the other side of this dip in time. It takes as long as it takes, and whatever it takes is fine. The process is the process. 
 

i have a hard time finding words to say that I think will help, but we are all here for you. Now and through whatever happens ahead. I hope you hear from your friend soon. And I hope one good thing finds you each day. 

RevRico said:

Appleseed said:

What if my life is just another dimension's me's berkeleyed up dream? And my berkeleyed up dreams are his regular day? 

I've been starting to wonder lately if I actually survived rolling my cavalier 12 years ago, and maybe I'm just in hell. It sure would explain a lot. 

Makes me wonder how I died, because I'm clearly here too

you know there's a persistent theory that an incident at Cern caused the world to shift into a parallel but slightly different -and worse - dimension in (I think) 2012.  Sure would explain a lot. 

Parades  would be a lot more interesting if they raced the floats. 

Mndsm said:

Parades  would be a lot more interesting if they raced the floats. 

Isn't that what 24 Hours of Lemons is?

A little ok news, still no messages but she liked a picture I sent her today. I'll take it as a win for now.

In other news I called for my therapy appointment today and found out my therapist was hospitalized with Covid.  You can't make this E36 M3 up. 

In reply to Wally (Forum Supporter) :

That's okay, I bet that after all this time seeing that like made you feel better than the therapy appointment would have, anyway.

Pete. (l33t FS) said:

Mndsm said:

Parades  would be a lot more interesting if they raced the floats. 

Isn't that what 24 Hours of Lemons is?

Sort of. But there's no local beauty queens or hucking candy at kids. 

In reply to Mndsm :

Call the Shriners. They have candy shooting shotguns.

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

It was nice, I hope it happens again. 

Mndsm said:

Parades  would be a lot more interesting if they raced the floats. 

I vote this up.

I should get a yellow quirky compact car just so I can get the license plate NUPRIN.

Wally (Forum Supporter) said:

In reply to matthewmcl (Forum Supporter) :

It was nice, I hope it happens again. 

How ya doin', Wally?

Pete. (l33t FS) said:

I should get a yellow quirky compact car just so I can get the license plate NUPRIN.

And if you get a blue quirky compact car will you get a license plate that says VIAGRA?