wjones said:
volvoclearinghouse said:
In reply to STM317 :
" But this thread is splitting into 2 topics. A lot of people are rightly asking "what can be done to prevent a mass shooting from occurring, or minimize it's effects?" The original question however was basically "why does the mass shooter become the mass shooter in the first place, and how do we prevent that?" One question is mostly reactive, and relies on defensive tactics while the other is much harder to nail down, but takes a more offensive approach and targets the root of the issue."
EXACTLY.
... and we continue to be stuck. Since Columbine what actions have been implemented???
Run, hide, fight training in schools and workplaces
Increased security and limited access
Revision of first responder tactics (go in and get 'em versus wait outside (ignoring what happened in this last incident))
Anything I miss? What can be done now to make an incremental improvement in the mitigation or root cause side of the equation? Improvement of the current situation requires an ACTION.
As others have stated, WHY IS THE CDC EVEN STUDYING THE ISSUE AGAINST THE berkeleyING LAW?! Let start with pushing to repeal that stupidity.
I'm not going to pretend to have an answer. If I did, I wouldn't be keeping it to myself and watching these events occur more and more frequently. This becoming "normal" has taken years and years, and it will take a concerted effort for many more years to reverse the trend. It may be a case where the genie cannot be put back in the bottle completely, but I do think it's worth a try. None of us can stop some random person from becoming a "Lone Wolf" gunman, but we might be able to keep our kid from becoming one. The root of this problem cannot and will not be solved by government actions, it must be solved in our homes.
My wife is carrying Lil' STM as we speak and I've been giving this some thought lately. Here's what I plan on doing in my own home in no specific order. Give kids an increasing amount of responsibility as they get older. Allow them to care for something besides themselves. Provide a framework of structure and discipline for them to grow in, but with enough freedom to thrive rather than being stifled.They must understand rules, but be unafraid to question authority. I will be honest with my kid, and will not sugar coat things or tell them they're not old enough to know something. I will instill confidence in my child, but will stress empathy in their actions. I'll work hard to make them consider the potential consequences of their actions before acting. As they age, Ill let my kid make more choices for themselves and will let them fail so they may understand that their actions have consequences. When they fail, I will be there to support and guide them to a better alternative the next time. I want them to be self reliant, but also understand that they cannot do everything by themselves, and it's OK to ask for help. I recognize that My kid will encounter situations and circumstances that I cannot fully comprehend, and I understand that it's my job to prepare them for those. The only way that I can do that, is to raise them to be observant and flexible. Just as I will raise them with a system of observing and making appropriate changes to the structure of their lives, they will need to be able to observe the world around them, determine a likely outcome, and plan accordingly. Those traits will hopefully allow them to not be a monster, and identify/avoid any dangerous people or situations they encounter.
TLDR; In our kids we need to Engrain the thought pattern of considering the consequences of their actions from a young age (not only for themselves, but how their actions might affect others). Let them screw up from time to time. Come down swiftly if their actions are over the line.