Is it rude....

singleslammer wrote: In reply to 914Driver: I think that you could get a gofundme up and have $100 for a cheap BnB just from the people in this thread. I would donate!

way better than a "buy me a skyline" donation.

Ashyukun wrote: Unannounced visits by SWMBO's parents would be met with considerable annoyance on SWMBO's part since her mom drives her nuts. Mine would never do anything remotely like that- the last time they came in as a surprise (to her, to attend her company's first show) they stayed in a hotel and she didn't know they were there until she saw them in the audience. But both generally give us plenty of notice since it requires either a day's flight (for my parents) or a 10-hour drive (for her parents) to get to us. We've had a former best friend of SWMBO pull this a few times though- the first time she called with like a day's notice and barely without saying hello was asking to stay over the weekend when she visited friends- we did have plans and SWMBO told her we couldn't do it. The next time she was more tactful about asking and since we weren't otherwise busy agreed- only to have her call up at the last minute to say that her boyfriend's best friend was also coming and that he'd need to be staying over too which we weren't too cool with (both for the lack of notice and, once he go there, that he was a grade-A bro-tastic asshat).

Did he leave his tall-boy on your coffee table?

Ashyukun wrote: only to have her call up at the last minute to say that her boyfriend's best friend was also coming and that he'd need to be staying over too which we weren't too cool with (both for the lack of notice and, once he go there, that he was a grade-A bro-tastic asshat).

Yeah, even if I've said you can stay, you don't get to invite somebody I don't know along with you. We told FIL's second wife they were welcome to stay in a nearby hotel when she announced at the literal last minute that she was bringing her 20-year-old son along with her and FIL. Sorry, I barely knew her and I didn't know her son from a can of beans. I don't think she ever forgave us. Tough E36 M3, though in the long run that probably cost us any inheritance we might have gotten from him.

tuna55 wrote: I was pretty polite, but they were so offended that my sister still hasn't been back to my house (three years later) and my Mom still hasn't forgiven me.

So, Win-Win, then,huh?

Also, didn't they back into your Yamaha? That right there would grounds for expulsion for me.

singleslammer wrote: Also, didn't they back into your Yamaha? That right there would grounds for expulsion for me.

Yep. And it's getting moved tonight so it cannot be touched......

JamesMcD wrote: Did he leave his tall-boy on your coffee table?

On the counter, actually. And spilled a fair number of McD's French fries on the floor when they stumbled in at 4am. And within less than 30 seconds of getting into SWMBO's car for me to drive them downtown he had cracked open another tallboy in the back seat. While he and SWMBO's friend's boyfriend were goofing off in the back seat (I'm amazed they didn't spill the beer to be honest) SWMBO's friend, sitting in the passenger seat next to me driving, turns to me and sighs and says, "I don't know why I put up with this. I mean, surely I can do better, can't I?" It took a LOOOOOT of self control to not laugh my ass off or just say, "Nope." and instead just shrug noncommittally.

In reply to Bobzilla:

I see this as a good thing.....more time so my collarbone might heal itself so I can shoot the fun guns.

WOW Really Paul? wrote: In reply to Bobzilla: I see this as a good thing.....more time so my collarbone might heal itself so I can shoot the fun guns.

Meh... I may enlist their help digging this weekend anyway. Talking about what grinds my gears......

I don't mind family intruding, but then again I've never had family that really did so.

I once discussed this with European folks and they thought it was wierd how American act like "OH YEA SURE OUR HOME IS YOUR HOME" but we always hope nobody takes us up on that. Where as when Europeans say "sure stop by anytime and we'll host you" they actually mean it.

I'm lucky in that I don't have many friends or family who annoy me, so I don't think I'd ever turn down someone wanting to stay for a weekend short notice. I would not, however, change my plans to suit them if was less than 24 hours notice.

Where I come from you don't show up unless invited. My parents are a five minute drive from me but will not drop in unless I call them. I do the same for them. Keeps things nice in the family that way.

The really funny thing is I actually like my mother-in-law. Great with the kids and is grateful for even the smallest things. (it I an Asian thing) As I have told my wife she is welcome anytime.

WE knew they were planning on stopping by on their way home. We even asked them repeatedly WHEN that would be so we could plan accordingly. ALways met with "we're not sure, we'll let you know".

I think that's the part that pisses me off right now. Not that they're coming for the weekend, but that we got less than a day's notice and instead of a single day it's the whole weekend.

All I got to say is I better get something good for my b-day from them this year and not 2 weeks LATE like the last few.

Make sure you move the bike out of the way this time.

Duke wrote:

Brian wrote: They're family, so it's not 100% rude.

I call BS on this. It's still 100% rude, unless it's an emergency. In reply to tuna55: I'm on your side 100%. Nobody invites somebody to our house except us, even if they are family. My wife's father and sister used to do this to us - they would discuss privately between them when they were coming to visit, and then one or the other of them would inform us. It pissed my wife off quite a bit.

Yeah, I don't care who you are. I invite you. That's it.

My MIL invited some Nun to our house. We didn't even know until she rang the doorbell. It was so awkward, and I didn't really know what she was saying because she was visiting from another country. He neither and his wife was with her. berkeleying weird. Especially since we're both athiest (MIL doesn't know).

In reply to Bobzilla:

Just do whatever you had planned to do and move on.

Invite them to join you at the range. Who knows they may like it.. . .

Every time one of these threads come up I'm thankful for my inlaws. The took my wife for a few days because she can't stay alone yet and they took the Fiat to keep from running up the miles on their car. I saw on Facebook that they took the car for a wash, inspection and filled it up yesterday.

My inlaws are the pop in type and as a result we usually have two or three extra beds ready for someone pretty much all the time. As long as they understand that I am not going to clean the house especially for them we're all OK.

That's also why I tell all of you that if you are driving across SD you might as well give me a heads up and plan on staying here instead of a motel, especially if you are driving something questionable.